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My 17 yr. old daughter has just been diagnosed with herpes1 - she had a horrible outbreak last week and we took her in - blood tests just came back and it is the herpes1, not the herpes2, which the nurse said was good news. She contracted hers from a kid who date raped her this summer-pressed charges and DA ended up taking a plea deal in December. We go back to dr. next week for follow-up. I have tried to research some, but do not understand how herpes1 is "better" than herpes2.

She is handling this a lot better than I am. She told her current boyfriend (they have not had sex) and he seems okay.

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I have type 1 genital herpes too. The outbreaks are usually less frequent and less severe. This is because type 1 is the virus that usually causes oral herpes (cold sores). Since it is at a different location, genitals, it is not in its ideal location which makes symptoms less bad. I contracted mine through oral sex with my boyfriend who has the cold sore virus.

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Good points about having type 1 instead of type 2:

MOST adults have type 1 herpes--about 80% in north America, more in Europe (98% in Italy). So that means, since most people already have type 1, they don't need to worry about catching it. Of course, she will still have to disclose but if the person she is thinking of marrying or being intimate with gets tested and, like most people, comes up positive for type 1, they can stop worrying. That basically means she has an 8 out of 10 chance of it not being a problem in a relationship.

Also, since hsv1 perfers the "upstairs" location in the body (the lips), it doesn't tend to cause as much trouble when it's in the genitals so there is every chance she will have fewer and much milder outbreaks in the future. First infections are notoriously painful and miserable but she may never even have another one, and if she does, it will almost certainly be much easier for her.

And, wrong and ignorant though it is, many people do not regard hsv1 as having the same social stigma as type 2 because type 1 can be caught orally and is often caught by children from the kiss of a relative or sharing a cup with a sibling. Type 2 is nearly always genital so it has more associations with sexual activity and, therefore (WRONGLY!!!) with promiscuity.

Remember....she is young. And viral research is progressing. One of these days (or years) there will be a cure or at least a vaccine so that people can avoid catching this. She will likely still be young when the vaccine happens in a few years.

And I very much hope you sue the incarcerated (I hope) SOB who raped and infected her; let him pay for her medical expenses and some supportive psychotherapy if she needs it.

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