Please I Need Someones Advice

[elamef]

I am really confused. I barely found out yesterday and the doctor didn't answer too many of my questions. I recently just got into this relationship. Its still very fresh, and we've slept together a total of four times. Close to two weeks after the fourth time, is when I started getting symptoms. Im guessing I got it from him, but am unsure. Because I figured if he had it, then he would have told me. I slept with one other person about two months ago. So could it have been that person. OR is it my boyfriend, since it was him that I have most recently had sexual intercourse with. I asked the other person if they had this, but they said no. But I just dont know what to believe because who would want to say the truth. But can my boyfriend maybe have it, but just not know. I asked him if he had anything and he said no. I didn't tell him that I just found out that I had this and when I felt something was wrong with my body before I found out, when he wanted to have sex, I didn't let him because I didn't know what was going on with me. And sinceI have found out I have DEFINITLEY not had sex with him. I am just really scared to tell him because partly I dont want to lose him. Can you have it for a while, but not know you have it. So I guess what I need advice on is, if this was you, do you think it could be my boyfriend or the other person from two months ago. I just wanna know who it is. Any other advice on how this disease works would be great because Iam really really sad and confused. I just need some advice, because no one i know knows anything.

[BelleinBlueJeans]

It really could be either one of them. People can go months or years from exposure until their first outbreak. You need to tell your current boyfriend, no matter how hard it is, and make sure both of them get tested.

For you, I am so sorry this has happened and I have been where you are. Things get better with time, and don't be afraid of losing your current boyfriend. If he leaves, he leaves, and that is his decision to make. You can only go forward and be an honest and responsible dater with herpes- and if you do that, you will come across someone who will accept you for who you are, and you help to keep the virus from spreading.

Good luck, stay strong!