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Mixed feelings about what is going on. Done a lot of research on the internet and gained more knowledge over what is now a part of my life. How will this impact my relationships in the future and how hard is it going to be to find a partner in life that is also positive for HSV. Lived 36 years of my life before I was exposed to HSV...little confused at the moment.

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In it for life

Hello Looking,

Sorry to hear about your new diagnosis.

I've had hsv2 since I was 21 y/o. I'm now 47. Life goes on!

I've actually had a very happy healthy normal life. None of the men I've been in relationships with have even cared that I had "the gift". And all of them were negative (or so I think... but soooo many people have this and dont know... it's very likely that some of them may have already had it)

I was married for 11 years, never used condoms and suppressive therapy wasnt available back then, and he never got it.

There are a lot of men out there who will love you for you and the hsv will not be an issue.

There are a few men that may not feel that way, but I've concluded that these are the same men who would bail on us during any difficult time, even if we didn't have hsv.

Your life is not over! And future relationships are likely to be even better when you do meet a special man that doesn't care about it. It does create a special bond.

This is a wonderful website filled with lots of supportive understanding people. You might like to read thru some posts on different forums and I think you'll be inspired and informed.

Take good care of yourself and keep your chin up! :)

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so sorry Looking.... I just now saw your profile and see you're a guy! So I should say there are plenty of women out there who will love you for you! Sorry about that!

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Thank you, In it for life, I couldn't have said it any better myself. Looking, I feel the same way that you do at times, believe me. I'm 33 and was diagnosed two months ago, a total shock since I have never had any symptoms (and neither did any of my partners, or so I thought). I know how devastating the news can be. You are not alone. Sometimes I read the success stories on this site, and they make me feel better. Hope you feel better soon.

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