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rosiee

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rosiee

i am 16 with genital herpes 1 ive been dreading telling my new boyfriend, but after reading alot of peoples posts i realized that its not that bad and will benifit by telling him. so does anyone have any advice on how i should go about telling him?

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WarriorKing

You need to become very educated yourself on it so you can answer questions that may come up, and learn what measures that you can take to reduce the risk to him. It is up to him though to choose to take whatever risks with what you too might do. Be sure that you can trust him with the information, as often people so young don't bother to really know each other before getting intimate.

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6879760

Do it in a place where, if he needs to, he's able to leave the situation. Mrhonest is right as well, be as informed as possible. Print out some information and heck, send him here if he has questions. Many of us, myself included, would love to talk to him about any qualms he may have.

Besides, you'll feel way better once you've said something to him, even though you may be really nervous about doing so.

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Pnoy

Just curious on disclosing to your close relatives and friends. Would you disclose it ? pros and cons?

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