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Told him about herpes and he nearly hung up the phone

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maybo

He called to say he was dumping me because I didnt have sex after a couple of months. I told him I had herpes (almost never get outbreaks) and needed to have him take a STD test before sleeping with me. He was speachless. We did talk, he became convinced if we slept together he woudl get the worst herpes ever. I took Mr. Nerves to my gyno who told him he probably had HSV1 and had some immunities. Also the latest studies find some people never get bothered and or catch herpes cause of their genetics.

Long story short Mr. Nervous will not sleep with me but loves to date me. Now I have to tell him be my lover or find someone else. It hurts to loose him, but I want intimacy too.

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vistan

Hmm, it seems like Mr. Nervous is just that...too nervous! Almost acting childish...I'm not trying to judge but if he stops talking to you then it's for the best. He obviously cannot handle it and you can't give him a choice to be your "lover". If he does not want to take this risk then you just gotta let him go.

You will find someone else who loves you for you and not caught up in your condition. And also "He called to say he was dumping me because I didnt have sex after a couple of months."?! Yeah, doesn't look like a good sign. A guy is willing to wait for you if he cares about you deeply. I think you should really think about if he's right for you. He might be cute but he might just not be the right fit for you.

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maybo

YOur right

Yes you are right. I will tell him this weekend. We both have the goal to find love and a lover. We both have to be free to persue those goals, that is if we cant find it together, then we must find it apart.

I have been practicing what to say all week.

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