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when things are too good to be true they usually are. I should have known that you he was lying...but no...i thought fate had brought us together. I overlooked our differences and his uptight and controlling behavior. I was going to make it work regardless of the fights and his temper. Little did I know what was in store for me. He was lying to me the whole time and didn't even flinch...i always wonder why couldn't he just be honest? Whats the point of lying about something like this?

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Unfortunately, some people don't give a shit about other peoples health. They really don't see the harm in not disclosing their status. I'm sorry you had to learn the hard way. It does get better.

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And more to the point, it is all about them. They don't care about the other person because they overwhelmingly care only about themselves and getting what they want. Sorry that happened to you, hon.

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I TOTALLY and fully understand. The same happened to me. I was lied to. Was shown an 'STD panel' showing that he was clear of 'all' STD's. But not Herpes. And he told me AFTER that he had a 'bump' that the doctor told him was HPV and 'fluid came out of it' - YA RIGHT! It was Herpes!

And I got it using a condom. He still should have told me.

Im so sorry hon. If you need to vent, I'm here :)

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  • 3 weeks later...

i don't know who i got it from. the sad part is i have never slept around and have always had long term relationships. it is possible i got it from my current bf, he's waiting on results, but i doubt it. i still have days where i rage and cry and wonder how someone i know could have kept this from me and the constant cycle of "how could this happen to me" but we can't change what's happened,my outlook is that in my future all i can really do is prevent what happened to me happening to someone else. i will never keep this a secret to protect myself. that good karma has to store up right? and for those who lied to us... i believe they will get what's coming to them too.

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i don't know who i got it from. the sad part is i have never slept around and have always had long term relationships. it is possible i got it from my current bf, he's waiting on results, but i doubt it. i still have days where i rage and cry and wonder how someone i know could have kept this from me and the constant cycle of "how could this happen to me" but we can't change what's happened,my outlook is that in my future all i can really do is prevent what happened to me happening to someone else. i will never keep this a secret to protect myself. that good karma has to store up right? and for those who lied to us... i believe they will get what's coming to them too.

I can understand the raging and crying over feeling you have been betrayed by someone.

But please try to keep in mind that about 70% of those who have herpes don't even know it, because they have never had recognizable symptoms.

It is entirely possible you got herpes from someone who did not lie to you --- just didn't know he had herpes.

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