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chucklowe45

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chucklowe45

My partner contracted HSV-1 from me, only because I did not know that I had HSV-1 (never had any OB's or had them and they were so mild that I did not realize it). She contracted it by my giving her oral sex, and her initial outbreak was horrible... it was the worst I have ever felt in my entire life! If I had known I had HSV-1, I would have never been foolish enough to have unprotected oral sex with her or unprotected sex period.

My question is, since she has contracted HSV-1 vaginally, can she have another OB from me giving her oral sex? And can I receive HSV-1 genitally since she has HSV-1 vaginally? Or are the OB's generated only by the virus that is in her? I hope my question makes sense.

Thanks in advance!

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RealisticGal

Your questions make perfect sense. They are very common ones here.

First, while I get how bad you are feeling, you didn't know. You couldn't have prevented spreading something you didn't know about.

And guess what --- about 80% of the North American adult population has oral herpes ---- but about 70% of them do not know it. Just like you!

So it is sad, what happened, but also very common.

Back to your questions.

You having oral sex again with your girl could trigger an outbreak.

But it would not be due to "exposing" her to the virus again. She already has it. She won't get it more.

The possible trigger for the outbreak, in that case, would just be the friction caused by sexual activity. She could also have an outbreak triggered by friction if you guys have penetrative sex, even though (I assume) you do not have genital herpes yourself.

She could also get an outbreak triggered by many other things, such as: certain foods she eats, drinking alcohol, stress, menstrual period, etc. Try to be sure she is well lubricated to prevent excessive friction.

You are less likely to now get genital HSV1, since you already have antibodies to it. Also, with time, she will likely have fewer genital outbreaks and less asymptomatic shedding, especially because HSV1 is "out of place" in the genital area. That means you will have less chances of being exposed that way over time.

However, it is possible. You could get genital HSV1.

Do my explanations make sense?

Feel free to ask for clarifications.

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first try not to feel so guilty, you did not know you had oral herpies. It not like you did it on perpose. Many p[eople have herpies and do not know it because either they had no symptoms or they were to mild to be noticed. You did not do this on perpose. The first outbreak is usually the worsest and following ob not quite as bad. Some people never have anopther ob after their first.

I have had HSv2 for going on my 3rd year and i only had 3 outbreaks. Were you tested for herpies 1? I assume you have been. Sense you both have HSV1 you cannot be rfeinfected by giving her oral sex

and no you giving her oral sex will not make her have another ob.

on the sideboard you will find very good info on herpies

I know you feel badly about what happen and i am sure you would of not had unprotected sex had you known but you did not know. I assume your gf has forgiven you so now it time for you to take her lead and forgive yourself

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hey realistic girl i did not relise you from southern calif . so am i

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RealisticGal

Hi Linda,

Yes, I am, and aren't we having lovely weather today?

Sorry, chucklowe45, not meaning to hijack your thread. :wavey:

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chucklowe45

Hey, no worries on hijacking my thread :p

I'm thankful for the feedback ladies, I have a lot to learn about all of this and just trying to get as much information as I can at this point :)

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RealisticGal

I'm thankful for the feedback ladies, I have a lot to learn about all of this and just trying to get as much information as I can at this point :)

You found a really good resource here. You can peruse the articles on the right side of this page. They are full of very balanced info.

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