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southboundanddown

how soon do you tell someone?

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southboundanddown

im the kind of person that likes to know someone before i tell them my dark secrets. i think people can be so judgey about herpes. is it best to just get it out in the open right away? or wait till you are closer and ready to be intimate?

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RealisticGal

Here's my personal belief about when to disclose, in case I should have to do so at some point:

"The right time to tell is any time prior to becoming intimate with someone."

My corollary to that is:

"It's best not to wait until clothes are already hitting the floor to tell."

I would not tell a person right off the bat. Herpes should not define you, but if you tell someone about it prior to them getting to know you at least a little bit, I fear it will in their eyes. So I would wait and get to know a potential partner well enough that I feel I could trust him, and also until it seems that we are definitely headed towards intimacy, before telling.

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t25a25y

once you get to know the person you can usually tell if they are the type of person to handle your kind of situation dont waste time on people that arent ready for a relationship i think people in our situation are better offf spending time finding the right one that will understand wat kind of herpes do u have?

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southboundanddown

genital hsv1, i need to check again, but pretty sure its hsv1

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