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how soon do you tell someone?

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im the kind of person that likes to know someone before i tell them my dark secrets. i think people can be so judgey about herpes. is it best to just get it out in the open right away? or wait till you are closer and ready to be intimate?

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Here's my personal belief about when to disclose, in case I should have to do so at some point:

"The right time to tell is any time prior to becoming intimate with someone."

My corollary to that is:

"It's best not to wait until clothes are already hitting the floor to tell."

I would not tell a person right off the bat. Herpes should not define you, but if you tell someone about it prior to them getting to know you at least a little bit, I fear it will in their eyes. So I would wait and get to know a potential partner well enough that I feel I could trust him, and also until it seems that we are definitely headed towards intimacy, before telling.

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once you get to know the person you can usually tell if they are the type of person to handle your kind of situation dont waste time on people that arent ready for a relationship i think people in our situation are better offf spending time finding the right one that will understand wat kind of herpes do u have?

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genital hsv1, i need to check again, but pretty sure its hsv1

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    • WilsoInAus
      You’re on the right track for sure. Did you get a swab of the lesions? Have you had an IgG blood retest for HSV?
    • amsb88
      I would like to hear from those who have genital hsv 1... I’m thinking that I have type 1 because the guy I believe gave it to me had cold sores.. or is this assumption wrong? What’s the chances of having type 2 from his cold sores? 
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    • Trace67
      LOL...............what a crock of shit! Lets get some of Rich Mancuscos magic minerals and some crystals to go with it.
    • smilingagain
      I am very sorry that you are feeling the way you do at this time.  I went through the full range of feelings and emotions you describe for more than 10X as long as you have (that's right over 30 years) .  I have no idea if what I am going to tell you will be of benefit but I have no doubt what soever that HSV2 has been eliminated from my life.    This happened several months ago.  How?  Through SCALAR ENERGY.  It is still hard for me believe at times that I am now free of it, but it's true. If you want to know more you should go to the website and read it all.  creativestrength.us  I have absolutely no connection to the good people at this site other than I am now totally well from the treatment (not expensive) and am telling my story in the hopes that the same will happen to them. 

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