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Hello everyone. I dont have any friends to discuss this with. So you all are now my new friends. I was diagnosed about three weeks ago. I got it from my husband, whom ive been married to for five months now. He had a scratch down there. He showed it to me and it looked like a scratch. He said maybe we should use a comdom until it goes completely away. I told him that it was healed up and that I thought we had nothing to worry about. Well one week later I ended up in emergency room with terrible pain and fever(I couldnt even walk. My husband had to carry me) Thats when I found out. My husband apologizes all the time, that he didnt know he had it. I love him very much and I trust him. However, since the hurricane I have been living with my mom and he has been living on the Naval base. We see each other on the weekends. Is it possible he cheated on me? Or just maybe he been had the disease and was just getting his first outbreak, which was one sore, comparied to my 10 or so. I love my husband and I really trust him. Can anybody shed so light on this possibly? Please im so confused.

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It could have been his first outbreak... I was diagnosed beginning of the year and have never had an outbreak.... some people don't have the obvious outbreaks or symptoms...

as for the hubby... only you can decide if you trust him...

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I understand, i just found out a few months ago and I was in the same boat, i couldn't walk or anything, itwas really really painful. The virus can lay dormant in your body, if your husband was recently under stress or something that could have caused an outbreak. I am not really sure what to say, but thought I would reply so you would know you aren't alone.

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Thank you so very much for reading my story and responding. I feel much much better. And after reading your replies, I realize that I do trust my husband. Now that I think about it, he has been under lots of stress during the past few months. He even got grey hair from it. I really am sad that Ive been diagnosed with this disease, but I am so thankful that I dont have to go through this alone. Thanks so much for the support.

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it is always nice when you know you are not going through this alone. I have felt that way since August of this year when I was first diagnosed and then to find this website and all of the other people who are going through this as well. It's nice to feel you are not alone in this. Thank you everyone for all your support, and all your stories as well.

as13, canada

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Sky,

I'm glad you have all of us to talk to now!!

I can't say for sure if your husband did cheat,that's something you either have to ask him about or just trust him enough to know he didn't.If he's in the navy he's a pretty busy guy.It sounds like he loves you very much from what youv'e written.

It could very well have been his first OB or he could have had an OB that was so minor he didn't think anything of it.(I've heard of that happening)

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I understand the intensity of what you are dealing with. So far the severity of my symptoms has varied, but dealing with the emotions of it have been the hardest. I never asked my ex-boyfriend if he knew he had it, because it wouldn't change anything. It is all about looking forward.

How are you doing physically now? Have you tried any alternative treatments? I've just ordered Chorophor to see if it helps. Health stores and some pharmacies have a book Prescription for Nutritional Healing which has a section on Herpes. One thing it mentioned that I hadn't thought of was the effect of diet. It says to avoid citrus fruits and juices and to minimize consumption of chocolate, oats, nuts, meats, grains, and dairy products during outbreaks. It's important to take your vitamins, especially vitamin B complex and vitamin C. There is a lot of other advise, but those are a few highlights.

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Hey everyone. Thanks for reading my story and giving me advice. It was Dec 5th when I was diagnosed and I cant believe im having another outbreak already. Its very minor, but I still wish it would just go away. And it would come at Christmas to depress me. My doctor's appt is not until Jan 10th, and I dont have any medication. Im just suffering through it. I just hope the VA clinic is open tomorrow. Im still embarrased to go. It really sucks. One good thing about the VA clinic is there are a bunch of old folks, so nobody's really looking at you in that type of way.

After all this time, my husband still havent went back and gotten his test results from the doctor. He says that he is embarrased, which I can totally understand. But so am I, and I just deal with it. He makes me wonder if he didnt already know that he had this. I really do wonder!?

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