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20 yrs with it and 6 wks in new relationship. I haven't told him yet......

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thank you for all of your support. i told him and I think it went well. we will see

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Obviously you have feelings for him and he you. You need to tell him and let him make the decision. The best way to tell someone, I have found, is to casually ask them if they have ever had a cold sore. Mostly likely they have or at least don't think bad about anyone who does. Then mention that you get them but not on your face. Ask if he knows what causes cold sores and inform him if he does not.

Also ask him if he has been tested recently. If he has had unprotected sex with anyone there is always the chance he has something far worse then herpes. Suggest that you two go together to get tested for everything, even herpes.

He will probably have questions about how likely he is to get it from you. Make sure to tell him that it is harder for a guy to get it from a girl than vice versa. Also tell him that the longer you have it the less you are contagious and that you have had it a while. Tell him about how neither of your husbands got it.

If he is an educated person he should see how insignificant this is when compared to all your other qualities.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will meet many nice fellow Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!


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Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

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