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FirstOB

First Outbreak... When is it safe to have sex again?

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FirstOB

Hi all,

I just joined and just got diagnosed last week and am 9 days into my first outbreak. I know sex should be the last thing on my mind but it's not. My fiance and I are very sexually active together so I think the worst part of all this herpes stuff is it negatively effects my sex life with him. He's never showed symptoms but we both agree he most likely transmitted herpes to me. So he's not going through it, I am, and he still has the nerve to ask when I can have sex again and I'm kind of mad about it but not really...

I'd like to know from your own personal experience, when can you have sex again? I still have some pain and inflammation and I refuse until all that's cleared up! I'm on meds and they're definitely helping!

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WarriorKing

When everything is completely healed up, for general hygiene and freedom from skin pain. Help him out some other way.

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MissHope

I guess the right time is when you feel comfortable to do so. If you aren't sure, then you aren't going to be comfortable and that's kinda not the point about getting intimate with someone.

So, when you feel that things are all healed up and better down there, then you can get down to business.

I have a non h partner and I have found that the best thing is to communicate with him.... so I let him know when I don't feel right down there and let him know that I'll be out of action for a while and he is fine with that.

So talk to your feller and let him know that sex is off the menu until you feel comfortable again.... what's a few days when you have the rest of your lives ahead of you?

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