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If Herpes is Common..? IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE?

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jeepers10

If Herpes is that common, why do you not run into more "talks", disclosures, acceptance, communities, PEOPLE that claim, they too have HERPES!!!

It seems odd to me that after having a few talks you would here in reply: "oh, me too"???

Has anyone had personal experience with someone that replies: "I have herpes too"???

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MissHope

It hasn't happened to me personally but I have certainly read posts on here of people having the talk and finding out their love interest has it too..... I am sure if you do a search you will find them.

I do know that when I told my close friends, I found out that three of them also carry the virus, so yes, I guess it is that common!!

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pina colada

I've wondered the same thing. No one I've told out of about 15 people (family,closest friends, past & potential partners) has fessed up to having it and if it's 1 in 4 or 5 then I would think at least 3 should have. The only person I ever met before joining an H-Club with herpes was my sister's ex-bf from college and that was 20 years ago. She knew and was ok with it and they were careful and he never passed it to her while they were together.

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Rosario

I agree, I do not hear it either and so I keep it as the darkest secret ever!!

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norcallove

I think one of the reasons we don't hear, "Oh I have it too" as often as we would think, is because a lot of people don't know they have it. In fact, most people are asymptomatic . Plus, when you say test for everything at a routine STD it pretty much never includes testing for herpes. So most asymptomatic people never have a clue they have it.

Also, due to the stupid stigma attached to it, most people only tell a few people. I bet if there wasn't this stupid stigma and people talked about it openly to everyone, we'd hear "Oh I have it too" a lot more. In my opinion at least.

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MissHope
I think one of the reasons we don't hear, "Oh I have it too" as often as we would think, is because a lot of people don't know they have it. In fact, most people are asymptomatic . Plus, when you say test for everything at a routine STD it pretty much never includes testing for herpes. So most asymptomatic people never have a clue they have it.

Also, due to the stupid stigma attached to it, most people only tell a few people. I bet if there wasn't this stupid stigma and people talked about it openly to everyone, we'd hear "Oh I have it too" a lot more. In my opinion at least.

Actually I absolutely have to agree with this post..... I know that my friends (mostly in their 30's) have all been tested and assume that when they go for a "full" std check and come back with a negative result, assume that it means they are free from herpes. It is not clear here in Australia that std screens DO NOT include a herpes test, so they are not aware that they may or may not have it.

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nosila
I think one of the reasons we don't hear, "Oh I have it too" as often as we would think, is because a lot of people don't know they have it. In fact, most people are asymptomatic . Plus, when you say test for everything at a routine STD it pretty much never includes testing for herpes. So most asymptomatic people never have a clue they have it.

Also, due to the stupid stigma attached to it, most people only tell a few people. I bet if there wasn't this stupid stigma and people talked about it openly to everyone, we'd hear "Oh I have it too" a lot more. In my opinion at least.

Also agree with this. Not only that, but even when you DO get tested for herpes it's (apparently) difficult to get a positive. I had to have 3 tests before I actually got a positive result for it, although I definitely had it and was suffering all 3 times. If you tihnk of it like that, added to the fact STD checks don't usually carry out the test for it in general anyway, it's easy to see why people don't realise. Also, if people only get one ob 9lucky, lucky people) they may be more likely to brush it off as something and nothing, iyswim?

I haven't told many people at all, I think maybe 3 or 4 of my friends know, as well as my ex boyfriend. My parents have no idea. There is such a stigma to it, it also almost seems like the "worst" std in a way, if people round here want to insult people they tell them they have herpes. I don't get why there is nothing like the stigma for coldsores though!!! Same virus, different place yet we have adverts on tv for cold sore treatment and genital is a big old taboo....it's madness. I have spoken to one other person on an entirely unrealted website (a baby one as it happens) who was very upset at being diagnosed with it and other issues she was having, that's the only person away from her who I have ever heard "mention" it, but in reality if the figures are right loads of people have it. Like another example. in my college class of 20 people, statistically there should be another 4 people in there with it. Mind you, again like you say, people don't talk about it so you don't get the chance to say "hey, I have it too!"

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Tiny

I have had 5 sexual partner since finding out I have herpes: 2 negative (i assume--untested, no symptoms), 2 who said "oh me too" (untested with symptoms) and one who got tested and found out he had it (no symptoms). The 2 who said "oh, me too" only said it after I explained that I got herpes on my fandango from a abusive ex with cold sores--they hadn't realised their cold sores were herpes!

One of the boys who said "oh, me too" also had 2 exes with genital herpes. The one who was tested and had it but with no symptoms 4 exes with cold sores, one with genital herpes.

My GP told me at least 50% of the new oral herpes infections he is seeing are type 2...and apparently I read somewhere the other day that at current rates they are predicting that 49% of women will have hsv 2 in 15 years time--which we really don't need to worry about because we will all be cured before that :-)

I do think it is way common...I have got to a point in my life where I do just talk about it...and surprisingly most people I talk to either have it orally or had a previous partner who had it orally or genitally (none have been so brave to admit anything more than a genital herpes "scare" themselves--but it seems so mixed up now that I think just calling it all herpes is far more honest). Oddly talking about it more seems to make people open up...I have found out about some very nasty other diseases people have been given by careless or malicious sexual partners. Herpes seems a small burden to bear...it doesn't affect your fertility, or give you cancer (at least not that they have proved), it doesn't damage your internal sex organs, cause you to die slowly, go crazy or any of those other things.

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Kitty123

Out of 6 of my close circle of girlfriends that I've known over 20 years, half of us (that's 3 including me)...have Genital Herpes ((and I'm the only one with type 2 :( )). Totally threw ME for a loop lemme tell ya! But my friend has had type 1 for many years, and gets REGULAR genital OB's! She didn't get them for almost 7 years, and now is having them monthly! So HSV1 genitally can also be a nuisance! There is no GOOD or BAD Herpes! :)

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Tiny
She didn't get them for almost 7 years, and now is having them monthly! So HSV1 genitally can also be a nuisance! There is no GOOD or BAD Herpes! :)

Thanks for your post Kitty.

I have had herpes for 9 years (6 weekly outbreaks when not on valtrex) and have recently had conflicting test results...HSV 2 on a swab, HSV 1 on the Western Blot (no recent exposure so not a new type 2 infection...and I got it from a cold sore). I'm waiting for the "deciding test" a second Western Blot next thursday...stressed. The specialist has told me that the Western Blot rocks and he is reasonably certain I have gHSV 1. However the nurse at the clinic is giving me a headache in regards actually getting the second blood test...I've had at least 2 calls re my appointment, her telling me I don't need it because obviously I have HSV 2 which I should just accept and move on because gHSV 1 NEVER causes recurrent outbreaks. So you give me hope and some evidence in dealing with this b*tch--some medical professionals really suck at making you feel like a great big hypochondriac!

The type matters as the man I love is HSV 1+ (no symptoms) and it would be nice not to put him at risk, I know it is his choice...but still.

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