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smithconfused

Should I feel low???

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smithconfused

On the phone with my cousin, and she said that her friend has HERPES. She was in such disgust when she was telling me that her friend has genital herpes. Only if she knew I have it too. She used words such as dirty, yuck, disgusting, and so forth. Im just over the stereotype and stigma. That is why this is my secret and I will not tell any of my family members.

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WarriorKing

Some people who have dumb ideas shouldn't be trusted with any of your personal information.

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Maria93

I feel the same way when people talk about it. One of my friends said if she had herpes she would kill herself. Another one said if she had it she would never date anyone again. They also have called it nasty, disgusting and so forth. I always feel so ashamed when they talk about it. Neither of them know that I have this virus and they probably never will. I think it's normal to feel a little self conscious when they are saying such negative things about something that you have. Just as if someone were obese and someone was making fat jokes around them. You are going to get offended. Just remember it's exactly that, a stereotype. We are not nasty disgusting or anything else someone might say. It's just a virus! And you know what? Thjey might even have it and don't know it. Do they get cold sores? Then they already have HSV-1 !

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Kitty123

If anybody where to start talking like that to me, I would start backing them into a corner and asking questions, like, "Oh ya...so what if ____? or "Why do you think __________?" and "What about ____?" I'd have them so far backed into a corner, they would start to feel differently while not even knowing I have it :)

Most of my friends know I have it anyway, and don't even blink an eyelid. 3other best friends of mine have it too, so it's rarely discussed. But if anyone else outside my close circle of friends started shooting their mouth off, I'd make them wish they hadn't - but in a very inconspicuous way. :)

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Stillmyself

This is the time to educate people on it though. And you can do that without letting them know that you have it. Just ask them " what about cold sores? Do people who have cold sore digust you?" or even common colds, they are so easily passed, it's almost the same thing.

You can tell them that you educated yourself against all the STI's so that you could protect yourself better, and then educate them on it, so maybe some day the stereotype will stop.

One of my friends started shooting her mouth off, there was a bunch of people around so I didn't tell her then, but I left suddenly, and called her the next day to explain. She was so embarrased, and then educated herself on the topic.

It's also the most talked about/ made fun of STI out there- esp in comedic movies.

Feel better that you are more educated than they are!

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dbc1951
On the phone with my cousin, and she said that her friend has HERPES. She was in such disgust when she was telling me that her friend has genital herpes. Only if she knew I have it too. She used words such as dirty, yuck, disgusting, and so forth. Im just over the stereotype and stigma. That is why this is my secret and I will not tell any of my family members.

You should feel pity. Ignorance is a far greater affliction than herpes.

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