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GF has herpes and I think I just contracted it :(

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I knew my girlfriend had HSV-1 of the genitals when I started dating her. I loved her enough to look past it. We've been together for a few months now and we've used condoms for protection.

Unfortunately, I think I have now contracted it as I started seeing some red dots on my left and right inner thigh/crotch area yesterday. It doesn't seem to hurt or itch or anything though...hopefully it stays that way. I'll be making a doctors appoint when I can and see if I can get a confirmation.

I've always felt a bit stressed knowing my GF had it, but kept it off my mind most of the time without issue. Now that I think I have it, I'm just sort of scared that if she isn't the one I'll have an even harder time dating than I did before...which has never been easy for me. Of course, I know that's the last thing I should really be thinking about since I do love my GF...but I've been having a hard time getting it out of my mind.

Anyways, that's my short story. Hi all.

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Don't assume you have genital herpes. HSV1 genital is almost impossible to pass along. Some doctors even tell their patients that they dont have to disclose to future partners because it is so rare to pass it along.

However you are doing the proper thing in getting tested.

Had you ever had a cold sore? If so you already have hsv1 and have built up antibodies to getting it somewhere else.

And even if you do have it, hsv1 genital is not that bad. You can live a normal life with it. I have both hsv1 & 2 and have lived a normal life.

This has not stopped me from doing anything or anyone I wanted.

Good luck!


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You may even just have razor burn if you shave down there, Or even soaps can irritate there since the skin is sensitive, if it doesnt hurt i wouldnt freak out until you've got a test. Best of luck

Btw i think your a great person for looking past that in your girlfriend, it takes a real man to love someone enough to look past that and your girlfriend is very lucky.

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Herpes is a cluster of little fluid filled blisters that will eventurally break and scab over. Don't freak out, doesn't sound like it, be very careful. Clean, lights on first, check very well, condom on, wash up, snuggle lots. The outbreaks often occur in the same dermatome(region) watch that area closely and she can often correlate it with swollen groin lymph nodes. Peace Chirpes

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Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

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