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facingreality, sam1143 is right. Don't commit sucide ok???i'm infected 4 years ago and i'm still alive and beaming away everyday.I know it's very hard to accept it initially but you will eventually..

Tell her after. Explain everything in detail. This will not come between your marriage as HSV 1 isn't really a big deal, in fact, HSV really isn't a big deal. It is pretty much like flu. How com

Hi there, I'm Malaysian from KL. I was having my first OB three months ago and almost commit suicide during day 2 after the doctor said "most probably" is herpes. The doctor did not performed a blo

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I'm from SG and i believe that no one in our freaking conservative and Kiasu country will go online to post such stuff even if it means it's a support group.I've been infected with HSV2 since 2007.Care to share your story inferno?

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facingreality,

pls don't do anything stupid..i know going through this process and getting such infection is devastating, but having herpes is not the end of the world. You still have a future in front of you. Be strong and be tough. If you need a chat, just post it here. i'll be glad to talk with you. Btw, i'm infected with hsv 1 since 2 years ago..But life goes on..

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facingreality,

sam1143 is right. Don't commit sucide ok???i'm infected 4 years ago and i'm still alive and beaming away everyday.I know it's very hard to accept it initially but you will eventually....we can chat here if u r comfortable about it.

Just think of H as ulcers.......only at a weird and uncommon area....

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starryhsw,

just wondering something..have you dated anyone after being knowing your infection? i'm only 21 years old, and i want to get into relationship...but i really don't know how to tell my partner...

btw, i'm going to singapore for holiday soon~ yeah~~

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sam1143,First of all,you must b frank and upfront about your condition to your partner.

If your partner truly loves u, they will definitely accept you for who u r.Of course it will be hard to break the news.But you have to.It is our social responsibility to the other party.And ultimately,u will know when the right one comes along when the person accepts u :)

Singapore welcomes u for ya holiday!

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starryhsw,

thanks for the advice~i guess i will just need to wait for the right one to accept who i am.

i'm looking forward to my holiday~~staying in marina bay..heard is a very COOL hotel..hehe..lucky me..

keep in touch~

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Hello there. I just found out that i have hsv-2. Funniest thing is i never even had any symptoms whatsoever, i just started going out with this girl i really thought was the one and the next thing we knew i had given it to her!! The unfair part of it all was that after my last relationship a long time ago (2+) yrs i had decided not to have any relationships until i met 'the one'. i went celibate even just so that i avoided situations like this. I really thought she was the one but when this happened I was so depressed that i did this to her. We broke up b'cos of this and now i don't think i can even have a relationship anymore. How do i tell someone i love that i have hsv? this is so unfair.

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it's a relief to know that i'm not alone in this, do you guys happen to know any support group here in KL or something? newly diagnosed and in much fear and agony, please help :'(

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Hi Rav,

Good to hear from you.

I'm divorced, single now. I'm ok with the virus, i had an ob 13 years ago, and has never come back since then. I'm lucky...

I'm here to look for people from the same group to be friends, and if possible future partner ;)

Keep in touch!

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hey jus a suggestion, we should all come out have a tea and talk about it; so we wont feel lonely, v can even open our own groups since malaysia and singapore is so near.. who volunteer to organize this event?

jus a simple tea tarik enuf, get to know ppl around us and teach others how to cope with their herpes.. frankly jus a suggestion..

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I urge to all who is newly diagnosed through blood test but no OB happen before, please get second opinion from other lab. This is based on my own experience.

hi "oh wow" on what reading we should be getting second opinion :???:

does it mean that you're alright?

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