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silverlined

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silverlined

Hi All,

I was recently diagnosed with genital herpes. I had been getting one small red sore every now and then for the last few months, figured it was just irritation...then I came down with a bad cold and when my immune system was impaired, I had an outbreak with several tiny blisters...classic case. I went to have them swabbed and the results confirmed it. I've only had sex with one guy in the past year and a half, before that I was celibate for 3 years and never had any symptoms, so I'm guessing it's likely I got it from him. I don't know how to tell him, and I'm scared to. I hate to think he knowingly passed me herpes, but I suppose it's possible he doesn't know he has it...IF he has it. Is it possible I could have contracted it more than 5 years ago and had no symptoms at all until now?? I'm just so angry at myself for not using a condom. How stupid can you be! Right now I feel like I would die if anyone found out I have this. I'm glad I came across this site, there's so much good info. I'm looking forward to learning how to deal with this.

Thanks!

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WarriorKing

With how the virus can be dormant, yes, it could be the last guy, or yes, it could have been 5 years ago. Don't beat yourself up about the condoms, people come here having acquired herpes while using condoms too. Condoms prevent pregnancy, and cut down on some STDs, but herpes can be on all the other exposed skin.

This virus is extremely common, millions have it.

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PeetryGirl7

Hi Silverlined,

Please dont beat yourself up about the condom issue its such an easy mistake to make! I am normally very careful but my partner passed it through a developing coldsore on his mouth to me when he bit me during oral - the infection caused by this made my outbreak pretty horrendous too so I was pretty annoyed at him even though it was not his fault.

I think you should maybe tell the boy as he could be passing it to other girls who make the condom mistake. If however he is the kind of guy who wouldnt handle the request very well or you are scared he may tell: the sexual health clinic run a screening service confidentially and you can provide his details and they will do the ground work for you :)

Hope this helps you!

PeetryGirl7

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silverlined

Thanks for your input, I appreciate it.

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