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I was recently diagnosed with Genital Herpes at the beginning of this week.. My doctor didn't even take a swab or do a blood test, but did a visual diagnosis.. I'm thinking of going back and requesting a test, but I pretty much had diagnosed myself just by the symptoms i was experiencing.. For the last two weeks, i have been the most depressed i have ever been in my life... At times I will be completely content with the fact that i have herpes and then the next minute i will burst into tears... In some way i feel as though this is punishment for me.. I was married for 4 years and ended up leaving the relationship because of various issues in the relationship... Ive been with a few people since then, and my most recent relationship was for 6 months, also who i suspect i got this from, ended up leaving me for his ex wife and don't even know that i have herpes.. excellent timing!! So basically, he gave me herpes and kicked me like a bad habit. This has been very difficult for me to deal with. I have never been the type to sleep around.. I know many people who sleep with anyone they meet, and do they have herpes??? NO! This angers me, I do not understand it. After telling my 20 year old sister about my situation, she informs me that she has Genital Warts... again, she doesnt sleep around either.. So everyday, I think of all the possible things that I couldve done to deserve this. But on a better note, have herpes has made me 100% less judgemental... All those herpes and std jokes, are NOT funny...

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Hi. Welcome to this site! It's great. I was diagnosed with GHSV2 three months ago and this site has helped a lot.

A visual diagnosis is the least reliable diagnosis, doctors can make mistakes. There are other conditions that look like herpes. Check out the "Conditions that look like herpes" under the symptoms tab on the right side of this page. I would recommend getting a blood test. It sounds like it would be too late to get a swab at this time.

If you do have herpes, it is not the end of the world. I know it is really hard, especially in the beginning and it is an emotional roller coaster, but it will get better in time. It has already gotten a lot better for me. Also, you are not being punished and ANYONE can get this. Herpes is not particular. I've read numerous stories on here of people who have gotten this the 1st time they had sex or virgins that caught it via oral sex. Also, you do not know if other people who sleep around have herpes or not. Most people are asymptomatic, so even if they have it they probably don't know... and if they do know its not like they are going around and telling everyone!

I understand the roller coaster emotions - being ok and then crying later on. I was like that the first week I got diagnosed. This site helped me a lot. Read the links on the right, they are very informative, I felt a lot better after I got more educated about this virus. Feel free to ask any questions you have. Members on this site are really supportive. We're all here for you. I hope you start feeling better soon. Take care hun. Hugs! :)

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PREACH IT! haha...

I think we're on the same page here in lots of ways, i do...i see/hear people sneer, grimace, scoff and even laugh at those who are in our condition, acting as if they are somehow better than us, even though they are likely just as promiscuous if not MUCH more in their lifestyle than the people they're judging....

thoughts start flowing through my mind like, "why AM I a whore because i was unlucky enough to catch this disease from doing the same things you do, while probably doing LESS of those things??" I caught this disease at 18, and he was the SECOND guy i'd ever slept with, so i fully understand how unfair the stigma of others is...but the problem is that they're ignorant. Those that are cruel and judgmental about this feel insusceptible to these kinds of consequences so they separate us into a different class...well SOME of them do....

After i found out i had GH i talked to my family and found out that my brother AND his wife have it, and my sister has HPV, ALL due to wrong place, wrong time, wrong PERSON circumstances.

But also i have met people who are unaffected by GH, and dont look at me any differently...so i guess we are blessed in a way because we will always know who's worth taking a chance on, because they're willing to take a chance on us...

keep ur head high, and just know that you're not alone....there's more comfort in that then there seems to be :)

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    • Ashleerae
      Yeah whoops, I didn't see you wrote HSV-1 until later haha. I definitely see your point. 
      Just some random thoughts on the subject that I've been thinking about similar to your situation, even if they are a little different. I've been in a workplace where a girl was the herpes girl so I totally get that. Not the brand you want. Yeah it is so common. Somebody else in the room probably has it, like you said. It feels like its so unnatural and isolated when diagnosed because nobody talks about it, but its so freaking common. Maybe people are more open about HSV1, but maybe not.  Who knows if the rest of the world will catch up. It's nice to not care what the rest of the world has to say sometimes. That would be tough at 18-22 having everyone you know find out. I assume my own hometown will find out one day from someone who knows; that was one of my other biggest fears about this too, but it's fading. I guess I better start working on my comeback game so it's in the holster when I need it Have a good night, good thread Hairpees.  
    • WilsoInAus
      Hey @Runride and welcome to the website, I hope there is some thoughts to assist in your thinking. Wow, where do live? Sounds a bit like 'Deliverance' country or something out of a David Lynch movie. I'm very sorry about that. I have three options for your consideration. They are not in order of any particular preference. 1. Ignore it. Go about your life as per normal. You are the actor on your own stage and the other players will do what they do. Do as you wish to do with your life and other people will buy into that, or they're not welcome on your journey. Herpes plays the role it always has for you. You inform partners in advance of sex. 2. Take a stand to be open about your status. Requires a bit more bravery to put yourself out there for little short term reward certainly. "Yes I have herpes like most of us do orally or genitally. What do you feel the issues surrounding this are? What ought to be different in our lives and the way we live them as a result?" 3. Move to a new environment to give yourself a better chance of living life under option 1 or even option 2 above.
    • Broken Butterfly
      For sure, why bother if it’s pointless and costly but I get what you mean.  
    • Broken Butterfly
      I said I considered it but not that I was going to sue- I have no idea what my options are here.  
    • Hairpees
      I’m definitely not saying you need to file a lawsuit, you’ll read on here most people don’t have success. I’ve mentioned it because hes not responding to you so maybe that will wake him up.

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