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Hi there,

I was diagnosed last week with HSV2. I've been dating a new guy for about three weeks. He never showed any symptoms, but had also never been tested. My OB was about two weeks after we'd started sleeping together. He has not yet been tested, but plans to.

My first OB was horrible. I was in so much pain last Sunday, it hurt to walk/sit/pee/anything. I was put on Valtrex and also another antibiotic for possible Folliculitis. At first, I thought I was getting a yeast infection, but when the pain got worse and worse, I looked in a mirror and saw bumps. I wasn't sure if it was from recently shaving or not, but I was pretty sure it was herpes. I told my new partner and he went with me to Urgent Care as soon as I got an appointment. The doctor said that a majority of the bumps looked like ingrown hairs and asked if I use an old razor. She also said it also looked like a classic case of herpes. The truth is, I rarely change my razor. I got my hopes up a little that it might not be herpes, but instead just a bad razor burn/ingrown hairs. But I was 98% sure that I had herpes. Sure enough, the results came back positive for HSV2, two days before my 30th birthday. Needless to say, I was upset.

I'm feeling much better and am hoping I'm one of the lucky ones that rarely gets OBs. I realize there is a possibility that I had this before my current partner, but we both feel the likeliness of that is slim. Regardless, even if he wasn't the one who passed it to me, he most likely has it now. I told my ex boyfriend of 2.5 years, just in case I did have it prior to my current partner. Luckily, my ex is very kind and caring and was very concerned about me. I told him I really think it was recently that I got it, but that he really should get checked anyway. He was not angry or upset, but very understanding and said he would get tested.

I've told a couple very close friends as I felt that I needed to have a support base and really just needed someone to talk to. My current partner feels terrible and has been very supportive by telling me everything will be okay and we'll work things out, which is really all I need to hear at the moment. I realize that there is nothing I can do to change this, so I've chosen to accept it. Obviously, that doesn't mean it still isn't hard to deal with. I'm not one to believe that things happen for a reason, but I understand why people choose to believe they do. Especially something like this. I'm trying to believe that this has happened for a reason or at least believe that having this isn't the worst thing that could happen to me. There are people much worse off.

I found this forum while looking for support and information. It's good to read others' stories and realize that I'm not alone. It makes me want to know everyone who has it in real life, just so I don't have to feel so alone on a daily basis. I look forward to your advice and support and hope that I can offer you the same.

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    • Ashleerae
      Yeah whoops, I didn't see you wrote HSV-1 until later haha. I definitely see your point. 
      Just some random thoughts on the subject that I've been thinking about similar to your situation, even if they are a little different. I've been in a workplace where a girl was the herpes girl so I totally get that. Not the brand you want. Yeah it is so common. Somebody else in the room probably has it, like you said. It feels like its so unnatural and isolated when diagnosed because nobody talks about it, but its so freaking common. Maybe people are more open about HSV1, but maybe not.  Who knows if the rest of the world will catch up. It's nice to not care what the rest of the world has to say sometimes. That would be tough at 18-22 having everyone you know find out. I assume my own hometown will find out one day from someone who knows; that was one of my other biggest fears about this too, but it's fading. I guess I better start working on my comeback game so it's in the holster when I need it Have a good night, good thread Hairpees.  
    • WilsoInAus
      Hey @Runride and welcome to the website, I hope there is some thoughts to assist in your thinking. Wow, where do live? Sounds a bit like 'Deliverance' country or something out of a David Lynch movie. I'm very sorry about that. I have three options for your consideration. They are not in order of any particular preference. 1. Ignore it. Go about your life as per normal. You are the actor on your own stage and the other players will do what they do. Do as you wish to do with your life and other people will buy into that, or they're not welcome on your journey. Herpes plays the role it always has for you. You inform partners in advance of sex. 2. Take a stand to be open about your status. Requires a bit more bravery to put yourself out there for little short term reward certainly. "Yes I have herpes like most of us do orally or genitally. What do you feel the issues surrounding this are? What ought to be different in our lives and the way we live them as a result?" 3. Move to a new environment to give yourself a better chance of living life under option 1 or even option 2 above.
    • Broken Butterfly
      For sure, why bother if it’s pointless and costly but I get what you mean.  
    • Broken Butterfly
      I said I considered it but not that I was going to sue- I have no idea what my options are here.  
    • Hairpees
      I’m definitely not saying you need to file a lawsuit, you’ll read on here most people don’t have success. I’ve mentioned it because hes not responding to you so maybe that will wake him up.

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