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I am waiting for the official results of my tests to be sure that I have HSV, but I've had 2 doctors check me out, and both are certain that it is HSV. It is painful, and I got very sick very quickly. I was briefly hospitalized, which was scary. I had 2 pelvic exams and an intra-vaginal ultrasound in 24 hours. By the end of all of it, I felt violated. The person I am sleeping with is convinced that it's something else, and that I can't have gotten it from him. Trouble is, he's the only one I've slept with in 2 months, and he knows he has oral HSV-1.

I'm completely overwhelmed. The few people I've told keep telling me that it's treatable, manageable, widespread, and not the end of the world. I believe them, and I want to move on, but I'm worried that if I don't fully process the anger, pain, frustration, and fear, that I won't heal properly. My biggest struggle right now is how to tell the people who love me and are trying to help that they need to let me be sad and angry for a little while.

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It is treatable, manageable, widespread and definitely not the end of the world.

What you are going through are the normal stages of grief. One of the best ways to quicken your recovery is to learn all you can about this simple virus. The more you know the better you will realize how insignificant it really is.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will find many nice fellow Herpsters who can offer you their advice. Talking to others who have it is very therapeutic.

Good luck!


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