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I am waiting for the official results of my tests to be sure that I have HSV, but I've had 2 doctors check me out, and both are certain that it is HSV. It is painful, and I got very sick very quickly. I was briefly hospitalized, which was scary. I had 2 pelvic exams and an intra-vaginal ultrasound in 24 hours. By the end of all of it, I felt violated. The person I am sleeping with is convinced that it's something else, and that I can't have gotten it from him. Trouble is, he's the only one I've slept with in 2 months, and he knows he has oral HSV-1.

I'm completely overwhelmed. The few people I've told keep telling me that it's treatable, manageable, widespread, and not the end of the world. I believe them, and I want to move on, but I'm worried that if I don't fully process the anger, pain, frustration, and fear, that I won't heal properly. My biggest struggle right now is how to tell the people who love me and are trying to help that they need to let me be sad and angry for a little while.

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It is treatable, manageable, widespread and definitely not the end of the world.

What you are going through are the normal stages of grief. One of the best ways to quicken your recovery is to learn all you can about this simple virus. The more you know the better you will realize how insignificant it really is.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will find many nice fellow Herpsters who can offer you their advice. Talking to others who have it is very therapeutic.

Good luck!


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    • floydmonk
      I had my first outbreak in June, very close to the date of your post. I healed up before the end of the month and it was about as many as you mentioned. I have gHSV1. The test was done on the left under the head of my penis because I had mostly healed by the time I made it to the doctor. There has been pain ever since in that one spot, but there hasn’t been any outbreaks. There are visible red spots that seem to linger forever. I’m a little concerned about this. Overall I’m lu it it is bite type 2 and I am doing my best to manage it. I hope you are doing well also since June. My wife and I (who I think I got it from) use condoms to prevent her from contracting it genitally. It’s a much more serious problem for women than men, as it can be internal for them and affect childbirth. Condoms are critical until a cure comes around, and there looks to be promising research. Hope you are well.    
    • floydmonk
      I have been suffering from nerve pain after my first outbreak in June. Today I tried a charlotte’s web salve product and it took the pain away. I wouldn’t use it during an active outbreak though for risk of spreading it.
    • Quest
      Unfortunately that is the most common place men get infected!
    • Quest
      They are not the yardstick that you measure your worth with! It also tells you something about each and every one of them! To the ones you treated you well before I would personally talk to them and see if that was actually what he said to them? Maybe he said something different?
    • AnonF
      I just disclosed to a man who works in the medical field and he didn't make a big deal at all. He shared his sti results w me I didn't see HSV1 on the test report, so I asked him about it and that opened up the discussion. The discussion of it was maybe 2 sentences tops. That was reassuring. We've since had sex and there was no hesitation or weirdness. So I recommend dating people w medical knowledge

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