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Livemylife

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Livemylife

Hi everyone,

i'm not quite sure how this works or what im suppose to say, but i guess ill just start with the fact that i need support from others that suffer from GH, because i've had it for going on 3 years now, and i still feel empty and alone inside. I just found the love of my life, and i dont know how to tell him, or even if i should. It's wrong on so many levels but everyday i sit and i think about ways to get around ever having to tell him. i know it's his decision but i just dont want to lose him. It's a horrible feeling and im sure most of you know how it feels. I was tormented in highschool because of this rumor that i did have it. Of course i denied it, but after that, i dont want to lose someone i can actually connect with. But i hate feeling like everyday that goes by im lying to him because i haven't told him.

Not only that, but as a person, i feel so empty inside like no one understands me. I had sex with one person and for the rest of my life i have to suffer for a stupid mistake.

Help:(

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lost99

Hey, u should tell him just for sake of honesty. You may be suprised at the outcome. Its better to do it now than have a fight about it down the road.

I know its hard, it feels tough. Its anxiety its alot of pressure. Just do it, you wont regret it. I felt the same way the first time. I'm on 6 yrs and its alot better than when I was on 3 yrs.

Be strong, I believe in you.

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Livemylife

thanks that means a lot,

it just sucks because it's like a real love. Nothing i've ever felt before, and now this has to get in the way. In the past three years i've hoped for someone to bring my spirits up, and now that i have him, i ask myself why i would want someone because i can't handle it. If only there were a cure

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lost99

I bet he accepts it. Plus if you feel that way... you want a relationship built on trust....

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heartless

I can understand how you feel,i am scared i will not ever have a man in my life again. But are you kidding,you need to tell him!!!!I didnt choose to get infected,i should have been given a choose! I used condoms with the man who did this to me and he ripped the condom off twice. I feel he did this on purpose,obviously. then Telling me he did not have any diseases. Now i hate him,not because this happened to be but because he did not tell me! He still wont say it. I dont want you too feel bad because i really do understand how you feel. I too do not know how i would tell someone when i do deciede to date again,but i will have to face the fear of them leaving,because i know i will not cause someone the pain i am in! At least give him a choice thats more than alot of people get and he should respect you for that.

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marycandice

I know how hard it is, but you definitely have to tell him/: This isn't something you can avoid forever. I wish it was! But the longer you wait, the harder it's going to be.

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