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Newly Diagnosed with many questions

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I was diagnosed roughly two weeks ago. I have been experiencing itching and tingling for about 3 months with two bumps that were under the skin. The last time I went to the doctor she prescribed me yeast medicine and it seemed to make the bumps smaller, but no relief for the itching. I was then prepared for her to do a biopsy when I went in. The skin had changed in texture, but no blisters or pain. She started the examination and said it looked like a herpetic outbreak. I immediately started crying and she was trying to reassure me that it was not the end of the world. I immediately filled my prescription for Valtrex and have been taking it since I went, but I STILL have itching. The texture of the skin is much better so it seems to be doing something. I am very confused though. A lot of the pictures I have seen and information I have read on this site do not seem to be the same as what I have going on, but if the medicine is helping then that has to be what it is. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Should the medicine have worked by now?

I had a very difficult time talking to my partner. I had never dreamed that I could ever had this as my sex life has been limited. Although, when I was sexually active at a younger age it was not in the day and age where everyone used condoms. They were only used to prevent pregnancy and were a nuisance. I talked to her about how I could have contracted it and she said it could have laid dormant for many years.

The other problem I have is that I cannot seem to find much information on how it is spread between same sex partners. We have not had sex since I went to the doctor and do not know how I am ever going to be able to do it again without this being in the forefront of my mind. I am uncomfortable exposing her to me. She asked me if she should be tested and we have read about this STD together. I am on the fence about that too. If she gets tested and does not have it, then I am going to be really worried. If she gets tested and does have it, then I am going to feel extremely guilty.

Any advice on what to do and where I can find the information I am searching for would be greatly appreciated.

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I believe in life that it is better to know the facts then stew in mystery. I think she should get tested. You can deal with your choices afterward, whichever way they go. Also many people don't have classic blisters, some just have redness or bumps.

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    • Ashleerae
      Yeah whoops, I didn't see you wrote HSV-1 until later haha. I definitely see your point. 
      Just some random thoughts on the subject that I've been thinking about similar to your situation, even if they are a little different. I've been in a workplace where a girl was the herpes girl so I totally get that. Not the brand you want. Yeah it is so common. Somebody else in the room probably has it, like you said. It feels like its so unnatural and isolated when diagnosed because nobody talks about it, but its so freaking common. Maybe people are more open about HSV1, but maybe not.  Who knows if the rest of the world will catch up. It's nice to not care what the rest of the world has to say sometimes. That would be tough at 18-22 having everyone you know find out. I assume my own hometown will find out one day from someone who knows; that was one of my other biggest fears about this too, but it's fading. I guess I better start working on my comeback game so it's in the holster when I need it Have a good night, good thread Hairpees.  
    • WilsoInAus
      Hey @Runride and welcome to the website, I hope there is some thoughts to assist in your thinking. Wow, where do live? Sounds a bit like 'Deliverance' country or something out of a David Lynch movie. I'm very sorry about that. I have three options for your consideration. They are not in order of any particular preference. 1. Ignore it. Go about your life as per normal. You are the actor on your own stage and the other players will do what they do. Do as you wish to do with your life and other people will buy into that, or they're not welcome on your journey. Herpes plays the role it always has for you. You inform partners in advance of sex. 2. Take a stand to be open about your status. Requires a bit more bravery to put yourself out there for little short term reward certainly. "Yes I have herpes like most of us do orally or genitally. What do you feel the issues surrounding this are? What ought to be different in our lives and the way we live them as a result?" 3. Move to a new environment to give yourself a better chance of living life under option 1 or even option 2 above.
    • Broken Butterfly
      For sure, why bother if it’s pointless and costly but I get what you mean.  
    • Broken Butterfly
      I said I considered it but not that I was going to sue- I have no idea what my options are here.  
    • Hairpees
      I’m definitely not saying you need to file a lawsuit, you’ll read on here most people don’t have success. I’ve mentioned it because hes not responding to you so maybe that will wake him up.

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