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This is still very new and hard for me to admit, but maybe the more i talk about it the easier it will become.

I visited my doctor yesterday because i thought i had tearing from intercourse and was scared i could have gotten something else. The doctor soon informed me that I had in fact been infected with herpes. At this point im still waiting on the test result for what strain i have but either way I know this will be life changing.

Trying to get past the feeling of being completely dirty, and cutting down the stigma i once bought into about this virus is a lot harder then i ever thought it would be. its only been a day an i feel emotionally drained. But whats harder then admitting it to myself that i messed up, is telling the guy i'm sleeping with about it. I have no idea how he will react or even what to say.

crossing my fingers that everything will work out!

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Visual diagnosis is the most inaccurate test available. Did he also do a swab test? Or a blood test? If you just acquired the virus your blood test may come back negative. Those tests look for antibodies in your blood to the virus and it can take your immune system 3 - 4 months to create them.

Even if you have herpes it does not have to be life changing. Although many people have told me that getting herpes has changed their lives for the better. They eat healthier and are more selective in whom they date. You can live a normal life, I know I have.

And if you do have it, it more than likely came from this guy. So you would be doing him a favor by telling him.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will meet many nice fellow Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!


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they did the swab but no blood test. I still feel like i should tell him, am i doing the right thing?

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    • Ashleerae
      Yeah whoops, I didn't see you wrote HSV-1 until later haha. I definitely see your point. 
      Just some random thoughts on the subject that I've been thinking about similar to your situation, even if they are a little different. I've been in a workplace where a girl was the herpes girl so I totally get that. Not the brand you want. Yeah it is so common. Somebody else in the room probably has it, like you said. It feels like its so unnatural and isolated when diagnosed because nobody talks about it, but its so freaking common. Maybe people are more open about HSV1, but maybe not.  Who knows if the rest of the world will catch up. It's nice to not care what the rest of the world has to say sometimes. That would be tough at 18-22 having everyone you know find out. I assume my own hometown will find out one day from someone who knows; that was one of my other biggest fears about this too, but it's fading. I guess I better start working on my comeback game so it's in the holster when I need it Have a good night, good thread Hairpees.  
    • WilsoInAus
      Hey @Runride and welcome to the website, I hope there is some thoughts to assist in your thinking. Wow, where do live? Sounds a bit like 'Deliverance' country or something out of a David Lynch movie. I'm very sorry about that. I have three options for your consideration. They are not in order of any particular preference. 1. Ignore it. Go about your life as per normal. You are the actor on your own stage and the other players will do what they do. Do as you wish to do with your life and other people will buy into that, or they're not welcome on your journey. Herpes plays the role it always has for you. You inform partners in advance of sex. 2. Take a stand to be open about your status. Requires a bit more bravery to put yourself out there for little short term reward certainly. "Yes I have herpes like most of us do orally or genitally. What do you feel the issues surrounding this are? What ought to be different in our lives and the way we live them as a result?" 3. Move to a new environment to give yourself a better chance of living life under option 1 or even option 2 above.
    • Broken Butterfly
      For sure, why bother if it’s pointless and costly but I get what you mean.  
    • Broken Butterfly
      I said I considered it but not that I was going to sue- I have no idea what my options are here.  
    • Hairpees
      I’m definitely not saying you need to file a lawsuit, you’ll read on here most people don’t have success. I’ve mentioned it because hes not responding to you so maybe that will wake him up.

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