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Dancer444

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Dancer444

i went to the doctors yesterday because i had symptoms of herpes and just wanted to get it checked. she says that it is almost 100% herpes, and did a swab to figure out if its type 1 or 2. I sorta panicked this morning and told the guy i was seeing that something wasnt right, and i went to the doctors about it, now hes freaking out so i believe i should tell him. But since i dont know all the facts like what strand it is, is it too soon to tell him> am i doing the wrong thing by making him aware of whats going on.

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TMC

It doesn't really make much difference in terms of telling him what kind you have. You're doing the right thing in making him aware definately, even at these early stages of not knowing for sure what exactly is going on. Good luck!

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blondebombshell139

it actually does make a difference of which kind it is, so i've been told. the one that starts as a cold sore on the mouth is less brutal when it is spread the the genital area. so if that is how you got it then you wont have it quite as bad. the right thing to do is to tell your boyfriend, because he could be at risk as well, depending on your sex life. when i got it i told my boyfriend that something was very painful and that i was worried it was herpes because he had a cold sore the last time we had sex... he was understanding and felt terrible that he passed it to me. we continued to have a healthy sex life for over a year later. no matter how hard it may be, the best thing is to calmly sit down and speak with him about it. let him know that you aren't sure what it is yet but that you are getting it checked out and will inform him with any information you get. the two of you can work it out together.

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TMC

I agreee with everything you said, apart from the fact that i have GHSV1 and have outbreaks every 2-3 months so don't agree with the statement that its less brutal and wont be quite as bad because it affects everyone differently. Which is why i said in terms of telling him its not that important because i really don't think it is.

Good luck Dancer!

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1Regularguy
I agreee with everything you said, apart from the fact that i have GHSV1 and have outbreaks every 2-3 months so don't agree with the statement that its less brutal and wont be quite as bad because it affects everyone differently. Which is why i said in terms of telling him its not that important because i really don't think it is.

Good luck Dancer!

TMC is correct. It depends on the person. No matter what it is best to sit down and discuss it like the adults you are. He may not have it and talking about it now is the best way so he can start protecting himself. You didnt say if you were still together or not. If not then he needs to know so he is not passing it if he does have it.

Honesty its a hard pill to swallow but, you will feel better knowing you may have protected him or someone else from it.

Good luck.

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