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hi everone, i guess i ended up here like you all did, having herpes. about a year ago i had unprotected sex with a girl i believed to now have herpes. i didn't find out until after we did it, and never gave it a thought because i never had an outbreak. for the past year i have been asymptomatic, but i think i finally see something :( .

i never got tested for herpes, but i can almost guarantee it is. i looked up pics on the internet, and i dont have anything close to how severe they looked, it looked like the bumps. i only have 2 bumps, and they aren't on my private "area", but above it. one looks like it might be just on the tip on my "area", partway into the urinary track, but i dont know. i know it has to be herpes though...

i have read much about this, and to me it doesn't seem like the end of the world. as long as we live happy and stay strong, it doesn't have to be the end. i will get tested soon and i know it's going to be positive, i may even have them on my head somehow, i had what i thought was acne come back twice in the same spot.

the problem i have is this, i had a girlfriend for about 4 years. we had a crisis where we split up, and i had relations with this other girl, the one that may have infected me. after a while, i worked out my differences with the other girl, we got back together again, and we had unprotected sex after i was infected. i never had outbreaks then or ever, so i am wondering if she never got it. after about 2 months of being back together, we split up for over a year, and recently we have been talking about getting back together because we just miss each other so much, but it was today i discovered the herpes.

I am really scared to say anything. It might be possible she is also having them because of my fault, but I have yet to say anything to her about it. I don't want to get together again until I find the right words to see if she will be ok if I have it and she doesn't, and I'm afraid this is going to drive us apart. I don't know what to do, I really love her and she loves me, but I am afraid she will be too scared to get what I could possibly have, if she doesn't already.

If anyone can offer me any advice if they had a similar situation or something I should do, please help me. I don't want to loser her over something like this. I have read it's possible for people to still have sex normally as long as they are careful, but to explain it to another person would be too hard to do. I need help please.

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hi everone' date=' i guess i ended up here like you all did, having herpes.[/quote']

Well ~ you are definitely not a lone ~ that's for sure! :wink:

Did you go to the doctor to find out "officially" if you have herpes or not?

I guess that pretty much answers my question...

Actually you can't guarantee that you have herpes unless you follow up with proper testing.

Herpes doesn't always look like what you might find on the internet. The only way to be sure of what you have is to go and get tested.

Since you have had more than one partner in your lifetime ~ you may not ever know who you contracted it from.

Have you ever discussed stds or std testing with any of your partners?

[quuote]I am really scared to say anything. It might be possible she is also having them because of my fault, but I have yet to say anything to her about it.

I guess that answers my question too! :wink:

I don't want to get together again until I find the right words to see if she will be ok if I have it and she doesn't, and I'm afraid this is going to drive us apart. I don't know what to do, I really love her and she loves me, but I am afraid she will be too scared to get what I could possibly have, if she doesn't already.

Yes, but you don't even know if what you have is herpes. Besides, if you love her like you say that you do then you will keep the lines of communication open with her and just be honest.

If anyone can offer me any advice if they had a similar situation or something I should do, please help me. I don't want to loser her over something like this. I have read it's possible for people to still have sex normally as long as they are careful, but to explain it to another person would be too hard to do. I need help please.

You have to tell her... there is no excuse not to tell her.

Angela

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