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I contracted hsv-2 almost 25 years ago, my symptoms are about every few years now or more. I can't honestly remember the last outbreak. I've come to a point in my life where men I date are honest about their fears. I completely understand it, and I don't know what I would do if I was in their shoes. I've had a 7 year, a 4 year, and a couple 1-2 year relationships over the years, none of my partners knowingly contracted it. I'm curious to those in long term relationships what your experience has been. Have you had unprotected sex safely? Do you take meds? Typically I can feel it coming on 2-3 days beforehand, and I don't have sex at all during that time. I can't ever be 100% that I won't give it to someone, but it seems in time the shedding and symptoms subside, do your chances of transmission too?

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I too have had it many years and have been in many relationships and haven ever passed it along.

Did you know it is harder for a girl to pass it along to a guy than vice versa? And did you know that if you take meds you reduce the risk of transmission by 50% and the longer you have it the less you shed? Here is a link to a very good article on transmission rates:


As you can see, it really isn't easy to pass this along.

Come to the Chat Room, there you will meet many nice fellow Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!


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Fairy dust

Hi there,

I have had H for 27 years and have never passed it on to a partner. I have been in my current relationship for 14 years - he has had a vasectomy and we do not use condoms. We don't have sex during an OB (who would want to anyway?!) and we found that sex often brought the dreaded tingling and aches on within 24 hours!!

I have only been on meds for the past 11 months as I couldn't stand the almost constant OB's any more. I have felt slight pain in my groin as if I am going to get an OB but none as of yet hurragh!!

We have two gorgeous children and life is pretty good!!

Hope you continue to have so few OB's - your immune system must be a whole lot better than mine!!

Take care x

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This is all very good to hear. My son was just recently diagnosed and I wonder what his life will be like. I'm so glad to hear so many of you living a fairly normal life with this. It gives me hope for him.

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