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I just found out that I have the herp.

Turns out the health department where I'm from doesn't even test for it and moving is the only way I found out I have it. So I don't have any idea when I got it because I was trusting my health department.

I'm just working backwards slowly getting my former partners to get tested. I don't really know what else to do.

Why would health departments only test for curable stds? Aren't the incurable ones slightly more important? Isn't knowledge of the disease how you prevent the spread?

I'm just blown away by this.

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JBnATL

One of the reasons why they do not test for this in standard STD tests is because it is so common. 90% of the adult population has hsv1, and while it is mostly oral, they do not want to tell 90% of the population that they have herpes and have everyone freak out.

I hope to chat with you soon!

JB

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firstday

I still can't help but feel like it's not a very legit reason.

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package deal

yes the health dept does not test for it unless you ask for it . I got diagnosed at the health dept too but in my case i went in and asked for it. Yes knowledge is the best way to prevent the spread of it.

Sense you have no knowledge of when you got it I commend you for contacting aLL former partners to get tested. I know that not a easy thing to do. It hard actually and painful. I hope former partners appreciate your effort ot inform them and do not give you a ruff time of it.

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firstday

My former partners have been completely amazing and supportive. Not one of them met the news with anger and they are all going to get tested.

One of them actually asked me to stop apologizing. He told me he knew I was upset enough about my own diagnosis and didn't want me to worry about him.

These are good guys. Which is why I was never out of contact with any of them. It wasn't an out of the blue call from a chick who was blacklisted.

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