further discussion from "people know"

[chaos]

I apologize for starting a new post in this section when it does'nt really pertin to the topic but for some reason the discussion was locked at the end of "people Know" by Wazup and I felt very compelled to respond.

To wazup:

I am so sorry for your pain. It sounds like you have been through a very tramatizing time. As hard as it was to read your story it gave me hope because as rough as it seems, you are so strong. I know how it feels when people are gossiping about you and judging you with out knowing the circumstances. The love and respect you have for yourself and others really shines through on you posts.

to Ruthie:

keep up your good work, your only here trying to help. I don't understand how your trying to support someone turned into a personal attack on you.

tohealth:

I have been comming here for several years and have read your posts befor. I remember the circumstances of you getting hsv. I think you need some help. like your intelligence/intuition/perceptivity is the upper limit for all woman's intellignece/intuition/perceptivity on the planet......IT IS NOT. first of all you are revictimizing these women who have all ready been victimized, this is a board for support, not attacting people by calling them names like ignorant and rude, it is also not for winning an argument. I did not appreciate your insinuating that peple who sleep with non h people do not care about their health, and you did imply that. I also do not agree that woman who are abused are basically to blame because they fit some predispositioned stereotype and that they should psychicly know who is going to someday turn out to be an asshole. How did you get herpes again? at some point you must have had an interaction with an infected person. Are you to blame for contracting it because you shoud have had a better radar? that is what you are implying. Your solution is to get a gun and shoot people? what is worse- that someone gave you herpes or that you would hurt and kill people? perhaps YOU should find another board, one for coping with hatred and rage.

[SpecialGuest1234]

What seems to be the problem?

Angela

[wazup]

Chaos,

Hey!! thanks!! i use to have a dog named Chaos, i guess you can guess why, that dog was crazy!!! lmao... anywho..I am doing a lot better these days.. I am still working, going to school, supporting myself, and doing everything i want to do... I had a very hard time at that point in my life, i was heartbroken, very sad, angry....probably every emotion you could think of... That was me, but i fought threw it, i kept my head held high, I kept meeting new people, making new friends, living life. Then guess what.... hahaaa, that same guy that hurt me sooo much then, begged and begged for me to talk to him, i wouldn't, i refused, he would call my job, come by my house, i told him i didn't have time to talk to him, we had nothing to talk about, and would leave him without looking back.. He tried his hardest, cuz he realized what he lost....And i'm still moving on... So everything is good with me... I don't get depressed about having H anymore, cuz if you really look, and i mean really look at this~ all the shit worse in this world......It isn't a big deal, i mean....I was at the mall the other day...walking threw Hollister, and this young guy says to one of his coworker just casually talking "i had to put foundation on today, ive got this big ass coldsore on my lip".... So having herpes is having herpes, wether it be on the lips or on the privates...its the same thing..... basically...Thats just how i feel.....millions of people have this, I met a guy not long ago, that i started talking to, we went out a couple times, and i told him, just to get his reaction...(we never had sex) do you know what he said!!! "i have it to".... hhhhhhmmmmm. i said..."you woulda told me right, i mean, if anything was to ever happen"?.... he said he woulda...but well who knows, it was just kinda crazy to tell someone, and expect any response, except "i have it too"....this thing is not rare... Sorry, i just went off and made a long post of this..... I hope that YOU are doing and feeling just as good as me, and believe me, it only PAYS to keep your head UP and keep going with a smile on your face... Don't let anything ...ANYTHING keep you down, and hold you back, LOVE K.

"Success is the best Revenge"

[tohealth]

tohealth:

I have been comming here for several years and have read your posts befor. I remember the circumstances of you getting hsv. I think you need some help. .

The fact that you have been "coming here for several years" may or may not suggest that you need some help. In my humble opinion, forums like this are not to be lived in year after year after year anymore than you should see a certain psychiatrist for your whole life. At some point, it becomes part of your problem rather than the solution. I don't even read this forum anymore; but got an email notice that lead to my response.

first of all you are revictimizing these women who have all ready been victimized' date='.[/quote']It's unfortunate that you think women are so fragile that merely imparting information to them is revictimization; that they cannot handle statistics, truth, scientific information, analysis or factually supported commentary, or even raw "girl talk" that is born of the wisdom of the collective female (in this case) experience. In my opinion, women are the strongest most resilient creatures in the world.