Is there a reason that you're still staying with him?
Also how do you know it's HSV-1? Were you diagnosed through swab/blood test? And how were you tested when you got your HSV negative status prior to all of this?
One of my ex-gf's used to get BV - I found a way to fix that by making sure that we were both showered/bathed prior to to having sex and her afterwards. However, if it's the semen that's causing your issues then just don't let him ejaculate inside of you. He should at least be sensitive enough to understand that BV is no fun and if he's the problem, he needs to deal with it.
In order to move forward you need to manage symptoms. Are you on anti virals. This anger eycay contribute to your symptoms. Stress is not good for herpes. Did you get tested for hsv as its not standard in your initial test. What exactly do you have and what does he have. You say your negative for 1 and but he has herpes. Need to clarify.
Look you have hsv1 which provides some immunity. He had sex with prostitutes who you dont even know have hsv2 plus he used a condom. I think you either go get tested or accept you are unlikely to have hsv2. No one here can diagnose you.
Out of all the possible outcomes, this one is as good as it gets for being HSV positive. If you're not sticking around here, I hope you will provide us with an update a few months down the road to tell us how you're doing.
He didn't have a cold sore, and I've never seen him with one. We just had vaginal intercourse when this happened to me. We have had oral sex before, but I never had a reaction like after sex. We also have a long distance relationship so we have sex every 3-6 months.
My OB/GYN swabbed my vagina when I went in for the bacteria infection.