I have a good friend who has been married 21 yrs to a woman with ghs2. He uses condoms every time they have sex (his choice) and he is H- to this day. He gets tested yearly. She just started anti viral so this was mostly just with condom use keeping him H-.
Malcolm- I disagree. I think that testing is important as is disclosure. I have bad HSV1 OB when they occur(which is rarely). But. It hurts so bad and it lasts 3 wks. I get shingles OB's too... Not as painful but itchy and uncomfortable on back of neck. With my ex disclosing prior to her even testing,(and me insisting on testing) I protect myself from a third virus. One that could stop my cycling that I love so much to do. Her longest relationship before me(she has had many relationships because she is gorgeous) is 3 months. We dated for 7 mos and after she broke up with me over text then came back 5 hrs later, I know our dynamic is almost impossible to fix. If I couldnt acquire hsv2 I may try a go but I still know that our chance of being longterm is less than 1 percent. Alone now and ok with it. People can judge me for "selfishness" or whatever on here but I told her that hsv was my biggest worry followed by the risk of her committing suicide. (That risk is low as she tried once over 10 yrs ago) She has many other issues as well. I love her, she just doesnt love me, IMO.
We all make choices. Some choices that we can't tell others about because she deserves privacy and confidentiality
Haha.. Ya, you do have a point.. Honesty is always the best policy (definitely the golden rule!), but if the vast majority already have HSV THEN there should only be an obligation to disclose IF asked - I'm not suggesting this necessarily, I'm just saying it makes logical sense. As you said, I have never disclosed to having had VZV (Chickenpox) because I assume my partner has had it too BUT I would certainly disclose if I was asked...
End of the day, I don't really think ignorance is bliss...but yet I think we're all a little jealous of those who don't know they have HSV and are living in ignorance...
I am struggling to find a career where I am comfortable. Let's say I've been a care professional of many years. Since my diagnosis, I have yet to find a job where I am comfortable. Any suggestions? Please! I feel I am wasting my education because of fear.
Thank you @Learning2CopeAZ! I'm sorry you are dealing with this. It is definitely life changing. You mentioned you were negative before, so with your first outbreak did you have a culture or blood test?
I took a culture test with my first ob. I had prodrome symptoms of an ob about 2 weeks after my first ob, but I took the meds and it went away. I haven't had anymore ob's. Stress seems to be my biggest trigger. If I get super stressed, my nodes swell up, so I know to stop stressing and make changes immediately.
The itching is annoying! I understand, but just know it will also subside. I use Tea tree oil, and it does work!
If you and your husband want to skip condoms, you could take meds to reduce risk of transferring it to him. It's great that he's very supportive, so I'm sure you two will figure it all out :-)
I believe with time, it will get better. Just try to keep a positive attitude, take care of yourself, gain as much knowledge as you can about living with this virus, learn to be more patient with yourself, and just take it one day at a time. That's really all we can do. You seem to be on the right track!
@Free73 But you're not quite a classic example as you got diagnosed... If 1/5 have genital herpes and 80% currently don't know than you're still in the vast minority.. and have more than likely expressed worse symptoms than most.. That said, we do know that of the 80% who didn't know they had HSV in the study MOST admitted to symptoms after being told of them. Sooooooo...
Also, not saying 43 is old, but sex education in schools has improved, and so people should be getting diagnosed at a higher rate.. Most millennials and younger generations certainly are now aware that cold sores are oral herpes and that lip or genital contact should be avoided whilst one is present - that education alone should be decreasing transmission even if hook-up culture and such is very much alive.. Likewise condoms are much more commonplace these days than in the past - condoms don't eliminate the risk, but they do help prevent hsv transmission. I would certainly suggest hsv rates are on the decline.
@hitkid Blood tests for hsv are certainly available in Canada.. Both the IgG and Western Blood Blot can be received...
Re: HSV.. I read the following. What stands out is only 5.5 million new infections each year... This is very low and HPV is routinely screened for in STD tests and annual physicals so you'd expect a fairly accurate number... I've been tested in annual physicals and have never had HPV and nor has any gf tested positive for HPV, and nor has any buddy ever admitted to having had HPV <-- my 'bubble' is irrelevant but the numbers just blow my mind.
"It is estimated that as many as 75 percent of the reproductive-age population has been infected with one or more types of genital HPV and up to 5.5 million new infections occur each year. The good news: In the vast majority of cases, the virus causes no symptoms or health problems.Every year approximately 17,600 women and 9,300 men are affected by cancers caused by HPV."
I have had discomfort since the beginning to a greater and lesser degree. My symptoms have changed over that last 9 months. Some gave gotten better some worse.
The news about Halford's vaccine is hopeful. So it will great if he can get it out in a year.
Yes, male. Thanks for the response. Gosh, where did you find that info? Very interesting! I found anywhere from 2 to 20 days. Thanks again. She has this above mentioned tingling after heavy lifting and it continues for 3 weeks or more and it makes her feel like it's prodrome with no ob. I've read prodrome doesn't last that long. Again, stats on prodrome seem to be all over the place. Anything concrete on duration of prodrome??