Very Scared and Alone

[kim]

My doctor said that I have gential herpies June 2005. I went into shock and denile. I have three long term relationships in my life and to do not sleep around. I have not told anyone and I not sure if I how to recognize the symptoms . I keep looking in the mirror and I am irritated, frustrated and having an emotional break down. -I have avoided sex with my partner- which is hard emotionally to keep up and he doesn't understand. I know honesty is best, I'm still trying to cope. I do not have any support and of course I do not have the money to go to counseling. I My doctor prescibed my Valtrex the bottle of course said take twice a day for three days. So i did. Not sure what else Im suppost to do. What is this doing to me and what kind of progress will this do to my body.Will this get worse. I feel extremely depressed, life should be this way. What can I do? Who can I trust to talk to without being so embarrased and ashamedand?

[bklyngirl25]

Hey Kim;

For starters i'm so sorry to hear about ur diagnosis. But honestly its not the end of the world hun. First, I understand that you have only had 3 partners in ur life..but u could only have one partner and catch herpes. Thatts just how things are sometimes. Second in regards to your symptoms, you should ask your doctor what you should look for, but in general it would be the same symptoms that you felt before the first outbreak (if you can remember). Its usually itching, tingling, burning sensation the genital area. Sometimes you have pains in your buttocks and legs. I have pains in my lower legs and arms also (but most people don't). Third, the first outbreak you have is usually the worse so you expect the same or milder the next time you have one (if you every have another one). Finally, as far as your partner goes, if you guys had a sexual relationship before then you can't expect not to have sex with him ever again. Bit before you do you must tell him. You said you got diagnosed last year? A year is a long time not to have sex your partner. Is it possible that he gave it to you?. has he been checked out for it? Over 70% of people with genital herpes have no symptoms. So he may have it and not know. If you want to read up on it google gential herpes and you will find a lot of useful information. It would be good if you talked with someone close to you, a friend, sibling, cousin, someone to be supportive. I know its embarrassing but htink of it this way 25% of the population has this disease and most have no symptoms so the prson that you talk to could have it also. Check to find out if there are any support groups in your town. Many places have herpes supprot groups. Good Luck and take Care

[Gayla]

Support - only an email away...

Thanks to the internet, support is only an email away these days. It amazes me to talk to folks who were diagnosed long before the internet and how they were able to cope.

I'd like to urge you to check out the Herpes Handbook. It's free and there's lots of solid answers to your questions and perhaps enough to help put you at ease.

The more you stress and worry - the more likely you are to cause yourself more outbreaks.

Check out the handbook with sections covering all phases of having herpes: http://www.westoverheights.com/freebooktext.html

If you have any questions after, you're more then welcome to email me.

Take care and keep your chin up.

Gayla