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Basically, I've yet to be diagnosed with Herpes. But, I'm almost certain I have it, and I'm fairly certain I've spread it to a good portion of my body including my eyes. I dont know how I may have gotten it, most likely through recieving oral sex. I'm scared, and have gotten checked twice for it and all results have come back negative. The only std ive yet to be tested for is hepatitis which I will get on my next visit to re-test for all stds again. I've looked at many pictures and have seen things that resemble what i have. I believe I have a very mild case cause I seem to have very light outbreaks. I have had a small rash that was possibly not even raised on the underside of my penis, and painful sensations inside the penis. Ive had cultures, and bloodwork done. It feels like somethings crawling almost at the very tip of my penis basically. However, I had a case of head, pubic, and body lice, are any of these symptoms related to that? I just dont know what to think, the doctors cant find anything, and I continue having body aches occasionally, along with eye pressure and pain, and the skin problems. The biggest concern of all for me is, that one day I plan on adopting, regardless of whether or not I have a life partner. The thing I'm worried about is that if i do have herpes on my hands, will I ever be able to hold, and feed, and touch my child? :cry: I'm a very caring man, and wish only to be able to nurture my child or children. I'm also concerned with my family getting it from me. Almost everyday I have the red/pinkish blotches on my fingers and hands and tips just above my nails, I'm afraid to even touch myself anymore, let alone another person. I've had small black specks similar to blackheads around my lips one which filled with puss just today. I'm scared, anyone out there please help. God bless, and thank you to whoever brought this community together.

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I always urge anyone newly diagnosed or who thinks they may have contracted herpes to check out the Herpes Handbook.


It's free and it's a great start to understanding herpes in a way that shows that there's not that much to be afraid of. It's life altering, certainly, but you'll be just fine.


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Have you had *blood tests* as opposed to local cultures? Make sure you get blood tests, although it takes a number of months to show up in the blood after exposure. If they try to convince you not to get blood tests, force them to (many doctors are still ignorant about herpes, how it's spread, what it looks like, how to test for it, etc.).

If it is herpes, a lot of people are helped tremendously by medicines such as Valtrex.

If it's not herpes, just make sure you're relentless and vigilant about taking care of your health. If one doctor doesn't know what's wrong with you, go to another, and another. You deserve good health and a happy life!

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