feeling like an ______x. and have questions

[kellie]

i swear im at an AA meeting

the short version:

i met my current BF 2 months ago. 3weeks ago i thought had a urinary tract infection and a yeast infection. i waited 3 days beforing going to the doctor bc it became more painful. i also confused a small blister (one of two i got from the first OB), for a hemeroid.

got to the doc and she asks if she can test me for herpes. i was mindblown. and pi*sed. although neither him nor I have EVER been angels in the past.

so my blood test came back negative but the scraping she did of the blister positive. it felt like hell the 2 weeks i had symptoms, constipation, burning while urinating, back hurt, pounding headaches. she gave me 1000mg valtrex 2x per day. when i just went in last week to speak to her about the results, she put me on supressive therapy and its 500mg 1x per day of valtrex.

so heres my confusion.

my BF did indeed test postive thru the blood. and the doc he saw said he prob gave it to me instead of vice versa bc mine wasnt in my blood yet. we both agreed to not point fingers. anyways HE HAS NO SYMPTOMS and so I WAS CLEARED UP and we had sex last week, with a condom till we got his test results.

OKKKKKKKKK

im lost. so im gonna be the one that has the symptoms and keep getting reinfected? bc today i wake up and sure enough its hurting while i pee.

ARGH. im on the supressive therapy does it not work? i have no blisters yet. just the painful urination right now. he's got his appt NEXT friday bc the doctor he saw didnt give him any meds for supres. therapy and i think he's lost with this whole thing. and im confused trying to explain what i am unsure of.

IS this a second outbreak or part of the first?

DO i need to get a higher dosage every time u have an OB?

HOW are we together going to know when he's having an OB if he's got no symtoms but has it in his blood?

WHY am i getting shafted here. arghhhhhhhhhhh. i thought all was well, the first OB was over, we used condoms. then got his test results. did not use condoms a few days ago, since we both have it. but could having sex wtih him w/o condoms and w/o him having symptoms bc he IS NOT on valtrex yet, be the reason i might be having tthis second OB if this is what it is?

PS - i cant keep missing work

i cant imagine if mine was a mild case what others go thru.

please someone talk to me,

where do i buy "lysine"

? i've read ALOT now, and it seems like this is also effective? and golden seal as well?

help help. me confused

kellie

[Guest dangermouse]

According to my research (but I'm a newbie), it is not possible to get reinfected once you have contracted the virus and it has retreated to the ganglial neurons. So exposure to your boyfriend's symptomatic or asymptomatic shedding should not be considered the cause of any new outbreaks you may have.

Kellie is a pretty name, by the way.

[ouch]

hey Kellie....

Unfortunately, you CAN have signs/symptoms of outbreaks, meanwhile, you boyfriend is one of those folks who is a carrier, but has no outbreaks...and can STILL pass it on. (as you have sadly found out.)

I too, am a little iffy on re-transmission...but from what I can tell, once you have it from him, that is it, you both have it and can not re-transmit the virus over and over. I don't think THIS can cause your reoccurring outbreaks, HOWEVER perhaps your body has not developed the antibodies yet (this can take 3 months) so I don't know, maybe this is whatis affecting your outbreaks. Maybe use condoms for a few more months just to give your body time to heal and to adjust to having the virus in its system....I dunno, I could be wrong, but hey, what can it hurt, right!?!?!

I take Lysine, you can get it anywhere. I get mine at good ole trader joes up the street from me. It is only like....$2.58 for a bottle of 100 pills. CHEAP. Take it every day, and maybe try some C and B complex with it. I would only take 500 mgs of each on a daily basis, then during an outbreak, double it....This seems to work for me.

I am sorry about the bad outbreaks. I wish you good luck.

[anie]

just a reminder that ob's can be brought on by stress and having intercourse. perhaps that's what's happening.

[lady]

Maybe this will help

from my research I found out that as time progresses most people will have fewer outbreaks. This is caused by the anti-bodies that will build up in your system over time as Ouch previously stated. Maybe your boyfriend has has had HSV for quite sometime and you have just contracted it. This would explain why he tested positive via blood test (which test for anti-bodies not HSV itself) , you tested positve via swab, and you are having frequent outbreaks. Now, I'm not any type of doctor/professional but if my research is correct, your situation makes perfectly good sense to me.

[kellie]

ahh thanks guys. i purchased some Lysine and Echincea+C, im gonna take the later for 14 days as suggested and come off it.

but now after reading it seems like the females get shafted again LOL, why i cant find anything on him yet i keep getting (small but still) bumps and what not.... i thought that even if we both had it, if he had a present soar it would make it easier for me to have an outbreak. not many boards talk about people living with others that too have herpes and how to manage together.

(esp since he isnt showing symptoms)

pretty sure i got it from him. im a lucky case that got the test swabed but not in blood to say its prob been dormant in him and not me.

well it sucks regardless, i found out he did not tell his ex partner as he promised when i wrote her she was furious, when i truly was concerned, about her, and not letting it keep going u know, perhaps i overstepped my bounds in writing her, that is today's guilt

any thoughts on that?

thank you all for responding. I'll keep at it. and posting. if anyone has information on places you can help educate youth and what not i am in jax fl and would like to talk to teens about it. cuz u never know. somehow i feel my hippie ways relate to young adults best, perhaps if they saw me and saw how normal i look.................

blessings,

Kellie

[anie]

Hi, Kellie.

You may have been overstepping your boundaries with your partner's ex-partner, especially considering the type of relationship you had with her beforehand. I'm not asking for an explaination, just trying to provide some food for thought.

So far as educating youth is concerned, Planned Parenthood requires that candidates have a bachelor's degree in health and roughly three years of experience with adults. Visit http://www.plannedparenthood.org and do a search for employment opportunities; they're arranged according to region. Good luck!

-Anie

[kellie]

i did overstep my bounds i admit, but im really happy i did.

she had no idea. he still claims that he told her 2 times to call in regards to the matter on her voicemail but when i emailed her she was shocked and confused