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I am a very smart, fun, energetic 22 year old accounting student about to graduate college when my life was turned upside down. I grew up in a small town where herpes was never mentioned. I have only been with people in serious relationships and never thought I would have to worry with this, but it happened and I can't chanage it now. I have been having a really hard time dealing with it because I feel like I can't talk to anyone about how I feel. I am too ashamed to even tell my best friend. I really think I am getting depressed, but I always put on a smile and act like my normal happy self eventhough I am not. Tonight is my first night on the site and its really helped to see that there are other people out there going through the same thing I am and I don't feel so alone. I am actually crying as I am typing this because its the first time I have actually talked about it with anybody and it feels good just to be able to let it out. I found out a several months ago and have went out on a couple of dates but I am scared to get close to anybody because I dont want it to get to the point that I need to tell them about me having H. how have some of delt with dating again? I could really use some help or any advise at all. :cry:

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Hi Lisa,

I hope you are feeling better. I am not an expert at this and my situation may be totally different than yours, but one thing is the same....we both have this thing called Herpes. I felt the same way when I found this site. When I posted for the first time, it let so many emotions flow. It really did help me, more than I ever thought it would, just reading and reading and reading......and learning and learning and learning. The one thing I can say that I have learned about "H" is that KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. From everything I have read, seen, and learned so far....there is life, and yes, even a good life, after a diagnosis with this. Please PM me if you ever need to talk, vent, scream, cry, whatever it may be. We all need a shoulder sometimes, especially one that can relate.

Take Care and things WILL get better!

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Hi, I'm new to this site also and very glad I found it. Read "sigh why me" under rant and rave and you will understand why. I'm very much older than you and I can honestly say that you WILL find someone who WILL understand but it will take time. H will do one thing for you and that is make you responsible in your sex life which will lead to a better sex life when you meet someone who you can talk to and they accept you. I understand how you feel as I have been dealing with a ton of emotions and did not know about this site til today - I still have to stop crying over the whole thing and talking about it I find helps.

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