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sigismundomalatesta

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sigismundomalatesta

I was diagnosed with HSV-2 when I was around 22-23 years old, I am about to turn 53. I honestly did not understand what the skin doctor was telling me, "you have herpes, and it is very contagious" is all i remember. I was confused, mystified and then in utter despair when reality sank in. The gal i got it from I never saw again and the time spent together was a beer soaked memory. As long as i was not in a relationship, I did not have to think about it. I worked a lot, drank a lot and kept to myself about this "problem". Serious relationships finally came around, my nerves caused more OB's and I was so mentally devestated, i finally shared my secret with the mindset that the relationship was not worth having anyhow. My partner turned around and said "that's it? that is what you are so scared to tell me?" She was ready to share her life with me anyway, but in just a few short months i sabatoged the relationship anyway by my alcohol and drug abuse. 5 years after that I got clean and sober, been that way for 19 years, continuous. Married to a fine woman, she is fully aware of my HSV2 and sobriety and loves me as i am. I am a lucky man. Now, as for me, mentally HSV2 has never gone away, it is controlled by acyclovir 200 mg, daily. Occasional flare up once a year. I stay sober, healthy, active and live my life as best i can-I realize i cannot change herpes, but it definately can impact my world if i let it. In hindsight, i internalized this disease, poured alcohol and drugs on it and became angry, bitter and lost. Sober, I can handle most of life on life's terms, yet this diseaes I still need to talk out with another human that knows what it is I am feeling and saying. This part is missing in my life and I now realize it is a bigger secret than anything. I found this website and am looking to join a support group. i would rather meet another human being than type out words, so if anyone knows of a support group in existance on Long island that meets, please let me know. Hope this helps someone, it definately feels good to release some feelings out about this personal secret that I hide away from the outside world, along with unconscious thoughts I have.:p

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JBnATL

There are three sites you need to check out that are NY based support groups:

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/herpesnewyork/

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/HINY/

www.nyhelp.org

or call Long Island Help (516) 361-9338

Come to the "Chat Room" There you will meet many nice fellow Herpsters who can offer you their support.

Good luck!

JB

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sigismundomalatesta

thanks for the info JB. I tried calling the LI Help line, but it seems to disconnect. At any rate I will be attending a support group in NYC. Having a support network for this ailment is important to have peace of mind.

Thanks for the info...

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