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Lifeis2good

Single guy, just found out, and floored!!

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Lifeis2good

Hi everyone...

I'm going through what I guess everyone here has at one point... My biggest worry is... I have so much to offer.. I got a surprise from what I thought was a serious relationship..

I still want kids and a family.. I know it happens, but would like to find a good girl for a lifetime of love, and this makes it tough to say the least..

Lots to learn here :)

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salemnye

Yes it took me a half year to get over it. I'm still not sure if i'll ever find someone to have a family with and love forever and have them not afraid of being infected. I just don't let it distract me...which the only time i think about herpes is when I'm having an outbreak because I can feel it. 1 in 5 is affected with herpes so I'm sure you'll find someone and I sure hope I do too :)

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s7evans

Well I just found out and I too would like to find someone for a lifetime of love... just can't shake the feeling that its not in the cards for me... I hope you all find someone! For now I know I am a fantastic person and have a lot to offer! That has to count for something when finding that special someone!! :)

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flipgirl12

it really does sound like a lot of people do have this and while it is scary and painful it's not the end of the world! don't get me wrong, i'm not thrilled to find out that i may have herpes and I'm sure the next time i start to fall for someone it's going to be very difficult to tell them but i for one am not going to let it ruin my life. just like all of you i'm a good girl with a lot of talent. the last 3 days i have been feeling extremely down and feel like i am a sinner in church but let's face it...people make mistakes and you learn from them and i honestly didn't know that much about std's until a few days ago when i found out i might have them myself. one thing this has taught me is communication in a relationship and the importance of knowing the person before having sexual contact. Im 24 and have only had 2 boyfriends both for over a year. I can't imagine that either of them would have herpes but they are the only ones I've had sex or oral sex with...I haven't been with anyone in a year and a half and im just now getting my first breakout. Sex is not the only part of a relationship and i think that this is KEY to keep in mind. You want the love of your life to be your bestfriend, someone who won't judge you...no matter what, someone who wants to be with you through the good and the bad. Again this does complicate things but by getting to know someone before having sex is important to me and hopefully when that special someone comes along they will understand and take me for who I am.

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Lifeis2good

Thanks everyone.. I see this as a blessing in a strange way.. It's like this.. I'm professional, healthy, fit, told I'm good looking, have a great heart and soul, and love to live life to it's fullest.. because of this, my attitude about relationships has completely changed. I can no longer take a casual approach, meaning, I have to be true and focused to the person I'm with. I've always wanted the person I have in my life to be my best friend and do everything I can to bring out the best in each other.. I no long have the luxury to think otherwise. If someone enters my life, and can overlook the fact I'm HSV positive, they will get an amazing man... I'm also looking stronger at my faith through all of this.. so.. another added bonus there. There are very few second chances in life, so I'm turning around everything I can to be more positive. Whoever goes through this challenge with me will surely gain from it.

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