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Hello everyone! Right now I am a little unsure of what to do...currently I am living in Paris France and a few days ago I noticed 3 bumps on my labia, burning while peeing, and it was swollen. I was hoping they would go away but they didn't so I went to the doctor Friday night. He didn't even look at it and gave me medication for something else. That night I couldn't sleep because I was in so much pain so I decided to go to the hospital the next day. This doctor looked at it and said it was herpes but didn't do any tests. I have been taking the medication he prescribed but couldn't ask very many questions due to the language barrier.

The guy I have been seeing picked me up and I told him the news. We have been having sex for about a month now and if herpes is what I have, I think it might be from him because he is the only one I have been with since May when I came out. Before I came to France I went to the gynecologist for an annual check up and test tests all came back clear. I have only had sex with 2 other guys in my life ,who were my boyfriends each for about 1 year. It had been a year and a half since I had sex until I started having sex with the guy I am seeing now. He said that he doesn't have it...or at least he didn't know he had it. It really is an awkward thing to bring up anyway...I don't want him to feel like I am blaming him either however I know he has had more partners than myself.

When I got home from the hospital my period started...just to top off the day ;) any advice on if you can even wear a tampon or use a pad? how do you keep it dry with the blood?

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Hi there,

Sounds like you're coping well with the news, that's awesome! and sounds like your boyfriend is being pretty supportive. It does sound like he is the most likely person to have given it to you, but that's not 100%. Basically all you can do is tell him that he might have given it to you, but you're not blaming him and you're not angry, he should just be aware of it, that's all.

I use a Divacup, which is a silicon menstrual cup that catches the blood. I take it out and empty/rinse it a few times a day, really comfortable and practical. Personally, I would choose tampons over pads, as pads harbor bacteria and will keep the area moist, which we don't want during an OB! As long as tampons are not too painful (some women have sores internally, and I imagine putting a tampon in does not feel very good), if this is the case, I would use a pad and just change it as often as you can.

Hope this helps!

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