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monica22

Didn't inform my boyfriend of HSV 2 until after sex

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monica22

I have had HSV 2 since I was 16 years old, and I have never openly discussed h on a forum. Until yesterday I had a boyfriend, I made a horrible decision to withhold this information from him, simply because I was scared and did not know how to tell him. He is a very judgemental guy and I assumed that he would not accept this. I love him and if I had just told the truth prior to being intimate this may or may not have saved our relationship.

We have been having protected sex for 3 months, always protected and I have not had an outbreak > 1 year, with a daily dose of valtrex.

Finally, I told him and his reaction was heart breaking for me. He is hateful (as expected) says he feels dirty, will pursue legal action if he has it. Do not get me wrong- I totally deserve his reaction. But I am so angry with myself because I made such a poor choice with someone that I love so much.

My thought process during this relationship was that I would never sleep with him if I had an outbreak, use condoms until I could tell him.

So, now I have not only broke his heart for being disloyal, I have destroyed something that could have been the best thing for me. He said he would have understood if I told him before we had sex, but since I lied- I lost him.

He has no symptoms and is going to get tested. He told me he hates me along with many other hateful things.

I have never been such an emotional wreck in my life. I have text him a million times to say sorry in a million ways. I don't think I can ever forgive mysself for betraying him.

What can I say or do if anything at this point?

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I have had HSV 2 since I was 16 years old, and I have never openly discussed h on a forum. Until yesterday I had a boyfriend, I made a horrible decision to withhold this information from him, simply because I was scared and did not know how to tell him. He is a very judgemental guy and I assumed that he would not accept this. I love him and if I had just told the truth prior to being intimate this may or may not have saved our relationship.

We have been having protected sex for 3 months, always protected and I have not had an outbreak > 1 year, with a daily dose of valtrex.

Finally, I told him and his reaction was heart breaking for me. He is hateful (as expected) says he feels dirty, will pursue legal action if he has it. Do not get me wrong- I totally deserve his reaction. But I am so angry with myself because I made such a poor choice with someone that I love so much.

My thought process during this relationship was that I would never sleep with him if I had an outbreak, use condoms until I could tell him.

So, now I have not only broke his heart for being disloyal, I have destroyed something that could have been the best thing for me. He said he would have understood if I told him before we had sex, but since I lied- I lost him.

He has no symptoms and is going to get tested. He told me he hates me along with many other hateful things.

I have never been such an emotional wreck in my life. I have text him a million times to say sorry in a million ways. I don't think I can ever forgive mysself for betraying him.

What can I say or do if anything at this point?

Everyone makes choices that they regret later. The important thing is that you learn from those choices that you now regret. It doesn't sound like he had the same "emotional" investment that you did -- but give him time and see what happens. You can now only wait to see what he chooses to do.

I wish you luck and hope that if things do not work out, you tell future partners before you decide to have sex with them. Wouldn't you have wanted that choice for yourself?

Good luck -

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