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tinytantrum13

30 yr old SC female. HSV2 15 yrs. now.

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tinytantrum13

Hi everyone.

I've had this thing a long time, so I've got a lot of experience with it. I've had 3 long-time partners. None of them ever caught the virus. I'm am newly single again, after 9 yrs. of marriage. I'm not looking forward to having to have that "talk" again. Luckily, I am a full time college student and mother of two. That keeps me too busy to really date anyway. I have a lot of experience on the female side of things if anyone wants to ask. It's really not all that horrible, though it seems so in the beginning. It's just inconvenient sometimes. I look forward to talking and getting to know others. I've only ever known one other person who had the virus. Nice to meet you all.

Shannon

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s7evans

Hi I'm 30 and just found out. I'm recently divorced and a mommy of 4 too! Its nice to know someone else my age that has experience with this! I am curious how your partners managed not to catch the virus. I'm really uneasy about that right now and would be great if you can give some insight on that? Nice to meet u!

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tinytantrum13

How they aren't catching it.....hmmmm.....that's a good one. All I can honestly offer here is speculation, and what I personally do to try to prevent transmission. There was always the chance that they "could" be infected, and they did know this. As I said....I've had this a long time....so I really know my body now when it comes to this. I can feel a burning coming on before I ever break out. I don't have sex at that time, or when I am broken out. My speculation.....I have read that it is much more difficult for women to transmit the virus. I have also read that some people have better immune systems than others. I can say that none of these guys got sick very often. Maybe a cold once a year, but that's it. Maybe it was their strong immune system combined with my precaution that protected them. From what I have read, there was always a chance they could have been infected. Everyone involved knew that. Maybe I just got lucky. I'm sorry I can't be more helpful. I can say that using a condom at all times, and never having sex when you're broken out is always an option. Some say that using anti-viral drugs can reduce the risk of transmission. These things weren't offered when I first contracted the virus. I have used them during the end of my pregnancies and they worked well it would seem. I had both children years after contracting the virus. I generally only break out twice a year (except in times of high stress). Like I said before, it is inconvenient, but very liveable. I do remember how overwhelming it was in the beginning, so I can understand what you're going through. Try to stay healthy and positive. It will work wonders.....trust me. It took me years to figure that out. I hope you get it quicker than I did. It is so nice to meet you as well. I wish you all the best, and definitely keep in touch!

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wittlealias

Hi, I am a female also in south carolina suffering from issues I believe could mostly be herpes even If I been tested as negative. I had so Odd cases of break outs on my face or my body which does not look like herpes but it concerns me anyway. I also had a bump in between my nose and lip but I was not able to see a doctor in time before it busted as I slept. so I am in a on and off again depression on my deposition. I have been on and off denial about this situation with confusing test results that say negative but odd changes in body tell me different. I hope to hear from you soon

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tinytantrum13

Have they done a blood test? Some people carry the virus without ever breaking out or showing symptoms. The blood test is the only way those people have of finding out. If a blood test is negative, then there may be something else going on. The doc should be able to either investigate, or refer you to a dermatologist or other specialist. This is what I found online. http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/herpes_tests.htm

If it is herpes, there are many medications that can lessen your symptoms and make it very livable. I know what you're going through right now sucks (especially just not knowing), but hang in there, things will get better. I'm here for you.

[url=http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/herpes_tests.htm]

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wittlealias

thank you, I have scheduled another appointment with my doctor and hope i can someday move past this.

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