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icylights21

Im only 14 and im soooo scared :(

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icylights21

Hello,

im only 14 years old and i found out just yesterday i have herpes,

i dont know what to do at all,

i dont know who to tell or who to trust,

im in pain and its always on my mind

i cried for hours and hours

i didnt know what to do yesterday

i wanted to kill myself but i was sitting down and then i was watching

Dr.Oz and there was a girl she had a disease where she couldnt move at all

and i told myself that this was nothing compared to that

i realized that im lucky to have this and hopefully soon have a cure then

to have a disease and not have a cure at all,

ive been trying to cope with this and i still have my moments and

im pretty sure everyone else does also, im so ashamed of myself and

im not even sexually active,

im scared and i dont know what to do

my parents dont even know

no one besides me knows

i need someone to be here for me
:(

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molly78

Hello,

im only 14 years old and i found out just yesterday i have herpes,

i dont know what to do at all,

i dont know who to tell or who to trust,

im in pain and its always on my mind

i cried for hours and hours

i didnt know what to do yesterday

i wanted to kill myself but i was sitting down and then i was watching

Dr.Oz and there was a girl she had a disease where she couldnt move at all

and i told myself that this was nothing compared to that

i realized that im lucky to have this and hopefully soon have a cure then

to have a disease and not have a cure at all,

ive been trying to cope with this and i still have my moments and

im pretty sure everyone else does also, im so ashamed of myself and

im not even sexually active,

im scared and i dont know what to do

my parents dont even know

no one besides me knows

i need someone to be here for me
:(

Dear Little One,

Please calm down. You have gotten some shocking news. But, one thing that confuses me is that you say you are not sexually active and yet you are certain you have herpes. Herpes is spread through sexual contact or through kissing someone who is carrying HSVI in the mouth. You may not have seen the blisters or they may have not had blisters at the time you kissed them.

In any event, I urge you to tell your parents so that proper medical attention can be obtained for you. They are going to see the blisters on your mouth if you do have it, so you might as well tell them now. Don't be scared about this, be smart and do the right thing from this point forward. Your girlfriends do not have to know and they don't need to know. Rely on your parents and this site for comfort.

Try and calm down in the meantime. It's a common disease with 1 in 5 women and 1 in 8 men who have it. You just jumped headfirst into adult matters way before your time. What's done is done. Now you have to fess up with your parents and start conducting your life much more cautiously.

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I am sorry to hear you have this at such a young age. best thing i can tell you is to keep it to your self. dont trust any of your friends with this. kids can be cruel when given private info that should only be your business. when you become sexual active then tell that person. yes some ppl may reject you some ppl will not, but know if they do reject you then they were not worth your time. there are plenty of ppl that are not so one sided when dealing with something like this. the best of luck to you.

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