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stephxo

Almost a year living with H!

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stephxo

I can't believe it has almost been a year since my diagnosis. It's crazy how much can truly change in that amount of time! I had thought I was mentally prepared to hear the diagnosis from my doctor as I had done an immense amount of research online prior to my appointment but in all honesty I don't think anyone can really be prepared to hear "you have herpes." Why me? That's the first thought that popped in my head. I cried for 20 minutes to a doctor who just couldn't understand how I felt. After I left the office that day I told myself that I could either skip my class that day and go to my room and lock myself in with my self pity or I could go to class and act as if it were any other day; and that's exactly what I did.

A year later I am in the best place I have been in years. I have an amazing future ahead of me. I am graduating college in May. I have amazing friends. A boyfriend who loves me. A supportive family. Why wouldn't I be happy? Herpes did not hinder me from finishing college or make me lose friends. It wasn't responsible for my failures. It has not controlled my life in anyway. I'm living my life for me and not allowing an inconvenience get in the way of what I want to accomplish.

For those of you who are new to this; please stay strong. Remember you are the same person you were before you were diagnosed. Don't let a stupid stigma that was created by arrogant uneducated people control your life. I know a lot of people say it will get better and you don't really want to hear that right now but the truth is that it will only get better if you remain strong. If you decide to let this rule your life and make you miserable then you won't get better. Remain optimistic and have a support system. You don't need to deal with this alone! Best of luck :)

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whodat

That is awesome Steph! Was your boyfriend your giver? Or did he accept the H?

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stephxo

Thanks guys! My boyfriend is not my giver. When I was first diagnosed I made an account on positive singles more so to meet people with H. My now boyfriend had messaged me and we talked briefly but lost touch. I ended up actually dating someone from this site and we dated for awhile but things didn't end up working out. My current boyfriend contacted me a few months later and we began talking again. We decided to meet in person and hit it off. We have been dating for almost 4 months now. :)

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herpalicious

I'm almost a year in and I have had the same experience. Amazing what time can do! I was absolutely devastated and now I'm happier and more excited about my future than before ever having H. I did lose friends because of my diagnosis and that was painful, but now I know what people are truly made of. I can't believe how amazing my boyfriend is! He doesn't have H and never flinched when I told him. Having H actually made me take our relationship a lot slower, so by the time I told him, we had a pretty solid affection for one another.

It sucks in the beginning! You don't want to hear that it "gets better" or "be positive" when you feel like your entire life has been altered, but it's the truth! H hasn't done anything to my life except make me more aware, understanding and accepting of people and made me a stronger person. I won't go as far to say that I'm glad that I have H, but if I hadn't contracted it, I would not have found such exhilarating happiness and confidence as soon as I did! Head up newbie herpsters!

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stephxo

That's awesome herpalicious! I'm glad you are at a great place as well. I agree, I will never be happy to have H but it has also brought a lot of good things to my life. I have become a stronger person and I'm able to educate those close to me who did not realize how common it is. Best of luck to you girl!

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summer20

Thanks Stephxo and Herpalicious. Reading your post gave me strength. I hope a year from now i could be at where you are at, thanks!

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Kitty3443

I was just diagnosed last week. And I don't think I'm the same person. I feel like a stronger and more level-headed person today than a month before all this drama started. So, two thumbs up I guess. "Just keep swimming!"

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