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I am a 31 year old female. I was just diagnosed with GH on Wednesday. Not sure if it is type 1 or 2 yet. Will take blood test in a few weeks to cofirm type. Doctor did scrape test and still waiting for that too. I'm sure it's GH though. Suffering through my first OB right now. Here's how it goes for me:

Met someone 6 weeks ago. Fell head over heels for him. He moved to my state for a new job and i never felt happier. We had sex. He assured me he didn't have anything & I was just tested in June.

We had sex often upon his relocation here. Dumb I know. Unprotected. Well, we also had oral sex. I remember the next morning noticing a scab above his lip. I asked him what it was he said he didn't know.

Four days later I felt kind of sore down south. Then it got BAD!!! Thought I had a UTI went to Dr. peed and they said bacteria was present so gave me a prescription for an antibiotic. He was real supportive brought me flowers, cards, stuffed animals, the whole bit. Next it was WORSE! Thought the antibiotics gave me a yeast infection so i got Monistat. Hurt like crazy to pee. Became suspicious and started researching on the internet. Asked him again about the sore on his lip when I read that oral herpes can be trasmitted to the genitals. He swore it was a pimple. Next day, couldn't walk or sit. Called in to work & went back to the doctor...with the nurses rolling their eyes like i was being a baby and insisting that go home to let the medicines work. Saw the doctor & she immediately recognizes it as herpes. I lost it. She writes me an excuse from work, a prescription for Valtrex and a lydocaine gel. I call him to tell him the news. He's in shock! I asked him again about the sore on his lip and if he ever had blisters or cold sores...he says yeah, i get them all the time! So i think I have HSV 1 genital. I hope so because the research on line sounds like that's the better genital one. I also realize that since he gave it to me we should be safe continuing a relationship---some hope in my life!!! He calls me later to tell me he has something to tell me. Turns out he's married with two kids!!! Says he's separated and still wants to be with me...I so confused. Two bombs in one day! I feel like I should just stay with him because at least he can't get it back from me. Plus who will want me now!!! Depressed. Can't work. Can't eat. Can't sleep. Can't stop obsessing!

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Wow. Okay, you need to take a minute to breathe and calm down.

First of all, this is a man who has betrayed you to say the least. He didn't have the decency to tell you he's married with children! Is this someone you really want to give the time of day, much less stay with?

Second, you need to stop obsessing. Remember an outbreak can be triggered from stress and in doing so, you're not helping yourself. I can't type it enough: you are the same wonderful person you have always been. If anyone you meet can't accept you for who you are, then you're better off without them. Just because the two of you have it, DOES NOT in any way mean that you are obligated to stay with him. I can guarantee that you do not deserve to be treated the way he has treated you.

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Thank you for your reply. I feel so alone. I haven't told any family or friends. On top of getting this infection...I was betrayed by someone I thought I loved and who said he loved me. I feel like this initial outbreak will never end. I can't imagine getting on with my life. Going to work, hanging out with friends, having dinner with my family. Do I tell them? I don't want to. Can't understand why all this happened to me. The betrayal on top of STD is just too much to handle. So incredibly depressed.

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You don't have to tell anyone unless you feel that they have a need to know. My immediate family knows as well as certain friends who I know I can trust. A bit of a joke: a family friend who shouldn't know recently asked how I've been feeling, so I replied with "What did you hear?" ...He thought I was my sister, who has arthritis. Some people on the other hand, never tell more than a handful of the members of their family; I know someone who didn't tell their mother, who they were closest to. You need to decide who so far as family and friends need to know within yourself. Be certain that those you choose are trustworthy. You can still do all of the fun things you enjoy such as spending time with family and going out to dinner.

At the same time, remember that any sexual partner you may have in the future has the right to know and deserves to know. While the talk is something we all struggle with in some form or another, it needs to be done.

I hope you have someone you can confide in to help you through this difficult time. You're in my thoughts.

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