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Hi everyone. I had testing yesterday for type 2 (genital) herpes. It was on a friday, so I have the joy of going through weekend before knowing the results.The last few years of internet dating after divorce has brought me to this point in my life ( I'm not a fool and the writing is on the wall). I'm currently swinging between panic, acceptance and depression. I live in a smaller community and I know word will travel fast. Dating has been difficult for me before this and now I feel it will be next to impossible. I guess the fear of social acceptance, guilt over possibly having infected another unknowingly and not so much the actual symptoms weighs heaviest on my mind. Thanks for listening.....

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Hi everyone. I had testing yesterday for type 2 (genital) herpes. It was on a friday, so I have the joy of going through weekend before knowing the results.The last few years of internet dating after divorce has brought me to this point in my life ( I'm not a fool and the writing is on the wall). I'm currently swinging between panic, acceptance and depression. I live in a smaller community and I know word will travel fast. Dating has been difficult for me before this and now I feel it will be next to impossible. I guess the fear of social acceptance, guilt over possibly having infected another unknowingly and not so much the actual symptoms weighs heaviest on my mind. Thanks for listening.....

What made you go for a test - did you have symptoms you suspect are herpes?

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PositivelySkinny

Yes a few days ago I had 3 small blisters on my penis. Almost like pimples. I did a Google image search and some research and it was pretty apparent what the diagnosis will be. On a positive note I've learned that the most accurate test is swabbing the area while the outbreak is fresh. The Dr put me on Valtrex for a week just to err on safety and minimize discomfort. The areas are pretty much healed 4 days after the outbreak. I wonder if there is scarring or decreased sensitivity long term in affected areas. I tan on a regular basis and initially noticed the discoloration that led me to examine myself more closely.

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Yes a few days ago I had 3 small blisters on my penis. Almost like pimples. I did a Google image search and some research and it was pretty apparent what the diagnosis will be. On a positive note I've learned that the most accurate test is swabbing the area while the outbreak is fresh. The Dr put me on Valtrex for a week just to err on safety and minimize discomfort. The areas are pretty much healed 4 days after the outbreak. I wonder if there is scarring or decreased sensitivity long term in affected areas. I tan on a regular basis and initially noticed the discoloration that led me to examine myself more closely.

I've read that the sores do not produce scarring - that is--if you leave them alone and I also do not believe you would lose sensitivity.

So with the sores being apparent, did you have a culture done by your doctor as well as blood tests for hsv1 and hsv2 separately?

I hope that you "dodged the bullet" and did not get the virus and it's something else that can be taken care of----you never know

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CaliforniaSunKiss

Yah, dating and finding love is tough as it is. I know how you feel. I'm sorry you are going through this... It's been 8 years now for me.... What I have learn from all these years living with H is that it's not as big of a deal as most people think it is..... It's not death threatening in any way. Just a little skin problem that pops out every now and then,... From my experience, Just take your meds and over time the out breaks get better... There is a lot of people with H. I suggest a dating site.. I was once a member of MPWH. There are attractive people through out the states...

Good LUCK,

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Emma88

I'm new, i just found out that i have HSV 1 about a week ago. i really don't know what's in store for me. I'm so depressed everything i do since i found out seems pointless, i'm full of guilt, and regrets. I blame myself for what i'm going through, i just hope things get better and to be able to enjoy life again. All i wanted was to be happy but with this i doubt it

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nightowl77

Hi, everyone. So, I found out yesterday that I tested positive for HSV 1 and negative for HSV 2, based on a culture swab earlier in the week. I'm thoroughly terrified right now. I'm in the middle of what.... up till now, anyway.... has been an amicable divorce from my wife. She's out of town till the end of the month, so she does not even know yet. I'm going to tell her when she returns.

My fears right now: Can I shake hands with people? Will I infect my family (I have two daughters) simply by being around them? Will I be lonely the rest of my life? Objectively, I know that the worst part of herpes is the social stigma. The effects of the condition itself really aren't a big deal, and your body gets better at fighting it off. But still. I know my wife will not take this well, especially since I'm sure it's due to me making a very bad choice last week (when I was out of town...) Anyway, need as much morale support as I can get right now. Thanks.

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RealisticGal
I'm new, i just found out that i have HSV 1 about a week ago. i really don't know what's in store for me. I'm so depressed everything i do since i found out seems pointless, i'm full of guilt, and regrets. I blame myself for what i'm going through, i just hope things get better and to be able to enjoy life again. All i wanted was to be happy but with this i doubt it

Hi Emma88 ---

Have you had symptoms? You mentioned having HSV1, but didn't specify where. Do you know if it is oral or genital?

What is making you feel guilty? I want to ask you --- would you feel guilty if you got the flu or the chickenpox or some other virus?

:wavey:

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Hi, everyone. So, I found out yesterday that I tested positive for HSV 1 and negative for HSV 2, based on a culture swab earlier in the week. I'm thoroughly terrified right now. I'm in the middle of what.... up till now, anyway.... has been an amicable divorce from my wife. She's out of town till the end of the month, so she does not even know yet. I'm going to tell her when she returns.

My fears right now: Can I shake hands with people? Will I infect my family (I have two daughters) simply by being around them? Will I be lonely the rest of my life? Objectively, I know that the worst part of herpes is the social stigma. The effects of the condition itself really aren't a big deal, and your body gets better at fighting it off. But still. I know my wife will not take this well, especially since I'm sure it's due to me making a very bad choice last week (when I was out of town...) Anyway, need as much morale support as I can get right now. Thanks.

What part of your body was swabbed, nightowl77?

In other words, where do you have HSV? Genital? Oral?

If it is only in those places (one, the other or both), you can't pass it by shaking hands.

It is possible to get herpes simplex on the hands (herpetic whitlow), but not common. I figure you would have mentioned it if that were the case?

:wavey:

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Emma88

Hi!

From what the doctor told me is just oral, at the moment there is no way to tell whether is genital since i never experienced an ob or anything like that, but doctor told me that as soon as i experience something out of the ordinary to go see her to do a swab test to find out ! but I'm thinking is not genital never had anyone do oral sex on me, but there is always a possibility that i infected myself somehow. i never been sexually active but maybe somehow it happened. i feel guilty because i wasn't careful enough about who i was kissing, and having HSv 1 is not so much of a burden, what bothers me is that maybe i infected others.

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RealisticGal

From what the doctor told me is just oral, at the moment there is no way to tell whether is genital since i never experienced an ob or anything like that, but doctor told me that as soon as i experience something out of the ordinary to go see her to do a swab test to find out ! but I'm thinking is not genital never had anyone do oral sex on me, but there is always a possibility that i infected myself somehow. i never been sexually active but maybe somehow it happened. i feel guilty because i wasn't careful enough about who i was kissing, and having HSv 1 is not so much of a burden, what bothers me is that maybe i infected others.

Emma, what prompted you to be tested for HSV? It is not usually part of routine testing panels.

Have you ever been tested for it before?

If not, there is a very good chance you have had this for a long time. Most humans get HSV-1 as oral herpes, and it is typically contracted during childhood by way of casual (non-sexual) contact.

Most kids get it from something like a kiss on the cheek from their old auntie, or by sharing a saliva-covered toy with another child. It is not anything to feel guilty about, and probably has nothing to do with not being "careful enough about who you were kissing."

It is estimated that about 80% of adults in North America have oral herpes, so it would be very difficult to avoid all of them!

Try to let go of the guilt feelings. There is no reason for them. You are in the vast statistical majority of humans. Far more people have this than do not have it.

:wavey:

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anewme

I have HSV 2. I have had this disease for at least 5 years. I am still devastated. It is hard for me to do this small post.

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