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I was 14 when I contracted HSV-2. I wasn't having sex, wasn't doing anything remotely inappropriate with guys at all. In fact I was raised and still firmly stick to the belief that sex is for marriage. However, the reason I contracted herpes is because I was brutally raped.

I was attacked by a man I didn't know, he did what he did and left, leaving me with emotional scars and something else also.

I had my first outbreak 2 weeks later, it was mild to say the least and my other outbreaks have been mildly irritating also.

I am not dirty or unclean in anyway, despite everything that happened to me. I'm with a man who knows about what happened, knows that I have this and still loves and accepts me. We're getting married and I know full in my heart that while our sex life will be different, it's going to be just as fulfulling. A virus cannot define me just like a cruel act won't define me either. My life is not over, just changed a bit.

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I am so sorry to hear the way you contracted it but at the same time so happy for you that you found a special man who loves and accepts you ellaview.

Most of us contraccted it unknowingly. I am sure if given the choice most of us would stayd with the person knowing what they had as we loved and cared about them. It really makes me happy to know that there are girls and boys with really good heart and who really loves the person in you beyond herpes. Sex is not that different if you have herpes. You are just more careful and you abstain from the physical contact those couple of days a year while concentrate on emotional attachment. You can even go without condom to have a baby ensuring you do not have that rash at that time, you still can give the oral (:

If your insurance cover you , you can take valtrex which help to great extent.


I also am in a relationship with a loving man who has acceted me and accepted knowing he was at risk. He did contracted it few months into the relationship but he accpets that as he says he is not going anywhere as losing me for herpes would be the most stupid thing to do as he loves me:)

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To ellaview and HT75 I am happy for both of you! You both gave me hope on finding love and others as well. I hope all works out for you and congrats!

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Ok, this gets the prize for "the wonderful thread of the day"!

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    • LWestCoast
    • BPKU
      Ok. That's true. I would def. use protection but i was just thinking I should say something. I haven't made an decisions yet so nothing has happened. And also thanks for your response.
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      I mean by that same logic anybody would be crazy to have sex with us ever  lol ppl we end up in relationships with are at risk the most aren't they? Since that would mean regular sex...  I'm asking to see if anybody has ACTUALLY disclosed to a one night stand because I've read on other sites that ppl have done it but most are blogs like the one here https://www.emilydepasse.com/eldsoul/2018/3/25/ask-emily-dating-with-herpes where basically the writer is responding to a question vs me actually having the ability to talk to the person who actually has the experience 
    • 2kroc
      http://www.eligiblemagazine.com/2013/03/14/lube-up-with-coconut-oil/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10813049 https://www.drgonzalezmd.com/avoid-secondary-herpes-infections-with-coconut-oil/   Coconut Oil has been shown to contain alot of antiviral properties. Herpes simply cannot survive in it, however I'm curious at how effective it is at preventing herpes transmission during sex, and if it'd make you near invincible. Herpes during sex is transmitted through skin to skin friction which coconut oil significant reduces.  Also if the virus were to leave the carrier's body it would get caught up in the layer of oil and killed. But how fast? Also, The lube drys out as you rub against each other, so you'd have to keep re-applying every so often.   Depending on the intensity of the sex, the coconut oil will get thoroughly rubbed into the persons skin layers, which'd mean the virus undoubtedly be on the persons skin and flesh. But, Theoretically, The virus should be dead/inactive due to being surrounded by the anti viral coconut oil, so it wouldn't even be able to crawl into their body to infect.   We need to get a bunch of lab mice or monkey, Infect 2 with herpes (Control and Test groups) , cover the test group in coconut oil, and let them have sex. If the test group shows less herpes transmission rates than that means that Coconut oil decreases STD TRANSMISSION!   Why hasn't this been done yet? Even if it didn't reduce transmission by 100%, 50% would lower std rates significantly.

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