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I was 14 when I contracted HSV-2. I wasn't having sex, wasn't doing anything remotely inappropriate with guys at all. In fact I was raised and still firmly stick to the belief that sex is for marriage. However, the reason I contracted herpes is because I was brutally raped.

I was attacked by a man I didn't know, he did what he did and left, leaving me with emotional scars and something else also.

I had my first outbreak 2 weeks later, it was mild to say the least and my other outbreaks have been mildly irritating also.

I am not dirty or unclean in anyway, despite everything that happened to me. I'm with a man who knows about what happened, knows that I have this and still loves and accepts me. We're getting married and I know full in my heart that while our sex life will be different, it's going to be just as fulfulling. A virus cannot define me just like a cruel act won't define me either. My life is not over, just changed a bit.

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I am so sorry to hear the way you contracted it but at the same time so happy for you that you found a special man who loves and accepts you ellaview.

Most of us contraccted it unknowingly. I am sure if given the choice most of us would stayd with the person knowing what they had as we loved and cared about them. It really makes me happy to know that there are girls and boys with really good heart and who really loves the person in you beyond herpes. Sex is not that different if you have herpes. You are just more careful and you abstain from the physical contact those couple of days a year while concentrate on emotional attachment. You can even go without condom to have a baby ensuring you do not have that rash at that time, you still can give the oral (:

If your insurance cover you , you can take valtrex which help to great extent.


I also am in a relationship with a loving man who has acceted me and accepted knowing he was at risk. He did contracted it few months into the relationship but he accpets that as he says he is not going anywhere as losing me for herpes would be the most stupid thing to do as he loves me:)

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To ellaview and HT75 I am happy for both of you! You both gave me hope on finding love and others as well. I hope all works out for you and congrats!

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Ok, this gets the prize for "the wonderful thread of the day"!

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    • viralfrog
      Having HSV-2 has not bothered me at all for casual sex. I'm just avoiding sex during outbreaks, on suppressive therapy and using condoms every time with casual partners. Since my outbreaks appear on top of my penis, even during an outbreak the risk is minimal if I put a condom on as soon as I take my underwear off.  I guess it might be a slightly different case for a girl as if you have external lesions around your groin you could still infect someone even using a condom. And of course, condoms can break, which has happened to me over 10 times and caused myself to get infected in the first place.  I see it as a much more difficult now having a serious relationship, because I can't feel much with a condom on and really want stop using them. However, I don't want to put my new girlfriend to any risk - I would feel terrible if I infected her. 
    • viralfrog
      Does anyone have experience about people's reactions to Herpes in Asia? Personally I live in Thailand where I also caught the virus as a condom broke 4 years ago.  Unfortunately I infected my ex-girlfriend with HSV-2. This was just after I had caught the virus myself and we had sex before I noticed and realised what it was. In the beginning, a local doctor told me I have just hurt my foreskin with my jeans' zipper and the tests came as negative. After getting tested later it came as positive.  Anyways, my ex-gf (well educated, professional, 26 years old then) she had no idea what Herpes was in the first place. She didn't really care too much about it and didn't bother to get tested. During our 3 year relationship we kept having unprotected sex as usual and she never had any issues until at the end one day. She had a very minor outbreak once and nothing after that (lucky her, no like myself who gets terrible symptoms non-stop). I know she has a strong immune system, because she was never sick despite myself having bad colds quite often. In any case, she could not care less about this virus and didn't mind at all.

      I've seen a lot of hysteria surrounding Herpes in Europe and the US. What has been your experience in South-East Asian countries like Thailand? Do people perceive HSV-2 as a worrying disease? 
    • Burty
      The full article is behind a paywall but you could write the the authors and request a copy.
    • OFMDH
      The jury is still out as there needs to be additional experiments. Editas' results make me believe dosing was insufficient among other issues.
    • moialbalushi
      Wow interesting !! But how did they provide it to him !! I mean he is 27 years old !!

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