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I was 14 when I contracted HSV-2. I wasn't having sex, wasn't doing anything remotely inappropriate with guys at all. In fact I was raised and still firmly stick to the belief that sex is for marriage. However, the reason I contracted herpes is because I was brutally raped.

I was attacked by a man I didn't know, he did what he did and left, leaving me with emotional scars and something else also.

I had my first outbreak 2 weeks later, it was mild to say the least and my other outbreaks have been mildly irritating also.

I am not dirty or unclean in anyway, despite everything that happened to me. I'm with a man who knows about what happened, knows that I have this and still loves and accepts me. We're getting married and I know full in my heart that while our sex life will be different, it's going to be just as fulfulling. A virus cannot define me just like a cruel act won't define me either. My life is not over, just changed a bit.

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I am so sorry to hear the way you contracted it but at the same time so happy for you that you found a special man who loves and accepts you ellaview.

Most of us contraccted it unknowingly. I am sure if given the choice most of us would stayd with the person knowing what they had as we loved and cared about them. It really makes me happy to know that there are girls and boys with really good heart and who really loves the person in you beyond herpes. Sex is not that different if you have herpes. You are just more careful and you abstain from the physical contact those couple of days a year while concentrate on emotional attachment. You can even go without condom to have a baby ensuring you do not have that rash at that time, you still can give the oral (:

If your insurance cover you , you can take valtrex which help to great extent.


I also am in a relationship with a loving man who has acceted me and accepted knowing he was at risk. He did contracted it few months into the relationship but he accpets that as he says he is not going anywhere as losing me for herpes would be the most stupid thing to do as he loves me:)

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To ellaview and HT75 I am happy for both of you! You both gave me hope on finding love and others as well. I hope all works out for you and congrats!

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