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on line positive singles - only there for sex partner

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hermia

It's bad enough on the usual on line dating sites, but I am finding that the guys on the STD positive sites are only there for sex partners...

It's like some kind of assumption that if the female is already infected... that means she's into sex without strings...

Email after email after email... all the same...

Actually, it's getting boring.

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Misery

I understand your frustration. I am having the same problem on Match. Everyone just wants to hook up... I understand your gripe about it being an STD site but my gosh think about all the people that are hooking up on Match and no one knows anyone's sexual health history ... Its disgusting!

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luckyCat

Currently Im talking with someone I met on PS that would appear to be interested in trying to be friends first and for that Im grateful. That said though, years ago when I first realized there were online dating sites for people with H, I was all up and through there like a fox in a henhouse.lol! At this point in my life Im very much into just having a nice relationship, but I also recognize the need (or desire) to feel like a dating experience could still be light and casual without having to deal with the weighty issue of having the talk.

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wastedhousewife

Unfortunately I think all dating websites are full of people just looking for hook-ups. A lot of us could probably trace our hsv back to folks who hooked up online and did not bother to ask each other about testing!

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Guest AlUrker

Some of us that are/were on positivesingles are looking for more than hookups...

Wait - can hookups last for 2 years? I've never done one before.

And keep in mind that **everyone** on match and adult friend finder and such are drug and disease free.... just read their profiles, says so right there. ;)

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wastedhousewife

That is true! Actually, everyone is "clean" except us :) Such a silly word - especially since most people have no clue if they have been fully tested or not! Hope you have better dating site luck in the future!

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notagain909

You could specify in your profile that you're looking for a serious relationship only. I'm sure that would reduce the number of emails you get just for sex.

If I ever decide to pay for positive singles I'll just be using it to find random hookups. Looking for 'love' on an std dating site just seems odd to me and maybe other guys feel the same way.

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hermia

Why would looking for love on on STD dating site be odd? That's exactly the problem I was originally talking about. Just because someone has herpes, that doesn't mean they are just going to jump into bed with you... Have you ready ANY of the posts on this site?

In the movie DOGMA, Jay and Silent Bob try to pick up girls outside an abortion clinic... figuring, well, at least they know the girls visiting the clinic are sexually active...which would increase their chances of getting a quick lay.

How is your opinion any different than that?

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Fully Qualified Survivor

Why limit yourself? A shared virus seems a crazy basis on which to begin a loving relationship! My advice would be to try one of the less "specialised" dating sites. If you do meet someone to whom you feel an emotional attachement then be open and honest. If they run a mile then it's their problem and not yours. A lot of men on dating sites are hoping for no strings sex but then so are a lot of women!

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