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So it has taken me a while to finally reach out to some online community. Honestly, I was absolutely devastated when I found out the pain while urinating wasn't simply UTI. When the emergency room told me they found nothing and that I should just see if it'll clear up, I left uneasy. I then got checked up for syphilis and gonorrhea, both came back negative. Then I noticed the bump on the head of my penis while showering. I had a strong inclination as to what it could be, and immediately felt weak all over with fear and anxiety.

I skipped work the next day and went to a health clinic. There they ran some tests and was able to verify that I do have herpes. They did not specify which one however. I will have to bring this up with my primary doctor during my annual visit in December. Perhaps he'll put me on some suppressive therapy.

My biggest fear right now is having to tell of my condition to a future significant other. I know if a girl told me she had herpes and that eventually I would catch it from her if we did get married, it would scare the living crap out of me. How have some of you dealt with this issue?

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Hello :)

That feeling of fear and anxiety when you figure out in your head whats going on is truly awful, so hugs for you!! Personally, i didn't find out until id been in a relationship for 2 years. No cheating on either side im 100% sure of that. I knew i had Ocular herpes, The chances are i either got this from a cheating ex boyfriend or i self transmitted when having an ocular OB, Which iv only ever had 2 of. I had to have 'the talk' with my fiance, and it is nerve wrecking, But the best thing you can do is inform yourself properly first. I had plenty of time to do this, as my fiance was serving oversea's at the time (military), and when i had gathered all the information i could, i called him. It went well for me, he said he didnt care if he caught it as were getting married and the good things we have together tottally outweigh a pesky skin virus.

Basically, what im trying to say, is just educate yourself. This website is amazing for info. Once you know yourself, you can then inform potential partners. They will probably appreciate you being honest and a decent person wouldnt let your diagnosis change the way the see you. Any that run a mile were probably not worth it anyways. Also, if you use protection and dont have sex during an OB, the risk of transmittion are quite low anyway, its all about being sensible.

Good Luck :)

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Hi Brotato, I know how you feel. I got it 2 months ago from my bf of over 10 years, he broke up with me one month ago. Now I feel that no one would want me because if I didn't have it I wouldn't date someone with it, I don't think. I just joined today as I have no one to talk to about it as I would never want to tell close friends. Feel free to write me and talk about it whenever you feel like it. I do understand your pain.

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    • North Saranac
      I have not had sexual contact for at least half a year with a partner of more than four years monogamous, one non-protected encounter four years ago different women and then a few more non-protected over ten years ago.   One morning, I woke up after a having bad night time sweats (common) with a bad itch in my pubic region hair on right side about halfway between my penis and belly button. I did not look closely to later that night and noticed a large red rash, but don't believe I looked that closely. At some point I noticed a blister or something and tried to pop it and then walked away, I think being in denial I didn't want to look that closely, so I cant describe symptoms. This was on a Saturday or Sunday. The following Monday I went to work, where I do a physical demanding job al week, I noticed the area that had the rash showed about four areas that were infected (either cut or blistered) and would burn at night time during the week, They were located on my right side, directly where my belt buckle rubs. During the days that work week, my belt buckle would drive and rub in the area ( my buckle is metal square with pointy but not sharpe edges), I tried to pull my pants up and get the belt off the area but that was not always possible. After work that week, I took the weekend and then next two days off of work, the shooting pain evidently stopped and the area after a another week or two looked to be healing.  Week before symptoms: I have been under stress at work and the previous two days before the rash / OB I was working on a boat with another person, we were sharing work equipment and peeing with out washing hands (could he have had it and spread it to me through sharing of phones, equipment if he peed and then touch my phone, then I peed (sorry if stupid question)? My belt could have also been digging into me also, I have been wearing this belt for over a year and never had a problem. Currently, I took a Herpes 1 and 2 test from stdcheck using quest and it came back negative. Symptoms Dec 2/3 test Jan 21, negative results Jan 23. The area in pubic region is still red and appears to be scared but no open sores.   I know it is crazy but with the those symptoms I am still worried. Was that too soon to get a test? Is there any chance of getting if from a co-worker if they have it and touched the same things you did? Would you recommend getting another blood test in 3 months? Thank you for your input.
    • T9000
      Doctors will tell you this, but it's incredibly irresponsible of them, and it's advice that needs to be ignored. You always need to disclose your status before having sex with someone.
    • T9000
      The general public is just really poorly educated when it comes to virology in my opinion. Part of it though is just the fact that there's only so much information a person can remember and care about at one time. However I've always felt like HPV is way more openly discussed than HSV, at least in women's spaces.
    • Forest
      Here is the full science and documentation behind the herpes patent . RNA GUIDED ERADICATION OF HERPES SIMPLEX TYPE I AND OTHER RELATED HERPESVIRUSES   https://patents.justia.com/patent/20180000970   I hope this will help answer your questions.
    • T9000
      The fact that there are so many people contracting hsv-1 genitally from as little as one sexual encounter leads me to believe that it likely more 'tuned' to the genital region than medicine realizes.

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