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So it has taken me a while to finally reach out to some online community. Honestly, I was absolutely devastated when I found out the pain while urinating wasn't simply UTI. When the emergency room told me they found nothing and that I should just see if it'll clear up, I left uneasy. I then got checked up for syphilis and gonorrhea, both came back negative. Then I noticed the bump on the head of my penis while showering. I had a strong inclination as to what it could be, and immediately felt weak all over with fear and anxiety.

I skipped work the next day and went to a health clinic. There they ran some tests and was able to verify that I do have herpes. They did not specify which one however. I will have to bring this up with my primary doctor during my annual visit in December. Perhaps he'll put me on some suppressive therapy.

My biggest fear right now is having to tell of my condition to a future significant other. I know if a girl told me she had herpes and that eventually I would catch it from her if we did get married, it would scare the living crap out of me. How have some of you dealt with this issue?

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Hello :)

That feeling of fear and anxiety when you figure out in your head whats going on is truly awful, so hugs for you!! Personally, i didn't find out until id been in a relationship for 2 years. No cheating on either side im 100% sure of that. I knew i had Ocular herpes, The chances are i either got this from a cheating ex boyfriend or i self transmitted when having an ocular OB, Which iv only ever had 2 of. I had to have 'the talk' with my fiance, and it is nerve wrecking, But the best thing you can do is inform yourself properly first. I had plenty of time to do this, as my fiance was serving oversea's at the time (military), and when i had gathered all the information i could, i called him. It went well for me, he said he didnt care if he caught it as were getting married and the good things we have together tottally outweigh a pesky skin virus.

Basically, what im trying to say, is just educate yourself. This website is amazing for info. Once you know yourself, you can then inform potential partners. They will probably appreciate you being honest and a decent person wouldnt let your diagnosis change the way the see you. Any that run a mile were probably not worth it anyways. Also, if you use protection and dont have sex during an OB, the risk of transmittion are quite low anyway, its all about being sensible.

Good Luck :)

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Hi Brotato, I know how you feel. I got it 2 months ago from my bf of over 10 years, he broke up with me one month ago. Now I feel that no one would want me because if I didn't have it I wouldn't date someone with it, I don't think. I just joined today as I have no one to talk to about it as I would never want to tell close friends. Feel free to write me and talk about it whenever you feel like it. I do understand your pain.

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