I am in a long-term relationship....my partner has also decided to take the risk and have unprotected sex with me. What we do is I wear a condom if I'm feeling any signs or symptoms, tingling or whatever. Otherwise, if all seems free and clear then we do have unprotected sex--using coconut oil (which has anti-viral properties) as lube. I have no idea how effective that method is, but it's what we've been doing and I've read that others use this method.
You'll get through this. It's not easy, especially at first, but it will get better.
Lisa is right, it doesn't change who you are. Once you're in a place of acceptance, you will be ready to date, and also ready to disclose. Disclosing is a personal thing, i think. Some disclose after a few datea, as they dont want to spend too much time investing if the peraon is just going to bail, and some wait awhile, get to know the person, and then disclose. I disclosed to my current BF and it went very well. We used protection at first all the time, I jsut wouldn't even consider going without. But we recently decidedicated not to use protection anymore. His choice, as I still don't understand why he would take the risk, but he says he is willing to risk it, and I agreed. I am paying close attention to any symptoms of shedding, and I am on natural herbal medications like lysine to help prevent outbreaks, and decrease shedding. I still worry about him getting it but not as much. He still hasn't been tested. He may have hsv1 orally any ways, which would increase his immunity to genital hsv 1. I hope this helps you a bit. I'm sorry you are going through this.
You can DEFINITELY find love. Don't allow a herpes diagnosis to make you feel damaged, or unworthy. I felt that way too, because I was seeing someone who isn't infected when I was diagnosed, and I was sure he would bail, since we were just newly dating, but he didn't. I disclosed and although that was very difficult, it went very well for me. It can for you too.
Why would you stick to the olive oil or coconut as a carrier, rather than alcohol?
I am very upset right now...
And curious. I have been having another break-out, on the usual site this week. Didn't really take much of a break from sex during this ob...my partner was willing and the ob was minor, so I wrapped it up and got busy. But I'm wondering--was this new ob in a new area triggered by my having sex during an ob? or by my use of OOO?
This virus is so tricky it's always hard to know if/what has any impact! I have gone very long periods with no OBs and then I'll have a few closer together and sometimes it feels like I haven't changed anything.
About oil of oregano (ooo), I also tried it more recently (I'm 17 years in) and had also read that it can trigger OBs but the idea was that it would help them become increasingly more mild and infrequent over time. I began ooo last November and was pretty consistent until March when I took a break. I definitely found I had more frequent OBs. I also feel like they did become increasingly more mild. So mild in fact that the only problem is I'm not sure if I am having one. For most people that would not be an issue. But for me, in a discordant relationship, it is a tiny bit of one. If I were you, however, I would stick to the olive oil or coconut oil with it. I was using coconut oil and ooo to rub on the base of my spine. I was also taking a couple drops orally with coconut oil and water. Boy is it strong though!
I hope you get through this one quickly!
I could've told us all that, there's really no point in emailing anyone and asking "when will the cure get here?" No one can say for sure until THE CURE ACTUALLY GETS HERE.
If you're trying to be pessimistic, I'll throw one at you, this whole crispr thing could very well end up in the can if it proves toxic, inefficient, etc. Nothing is for sure, but with that said, unless we're in the lab with these guys, all we can do is hope and wait.
So I went 2 months without an OB and thought things were going great. One day Idrank a couple drops of oregano oil in water and the next morning was my first ob in months.
I had read that oregano oil can actually trigger an ob...
So maybe that is true. But since an OB is already underway, I figured some topical oregano oil might help. I dissolved some oregano oil into some rubbing alcohol and applied that to the affected area. I figured that you want to dry out a blister, not moisturize it...so instead of using orenago oil in olive oil, I decided to try the alcohol. Well, I do not know for sure that the two are connected....but just now I go to look at my member, cause it was itching a bit near the base and there it is--the largest cluster of blisters I've had yet.
Up till now all of my ob's have been in the same region--but this one is way over on the other side of my cock. Damn. I'd been using the rubbing alcohol with oregano oil for the past day or so, and thought it was getting better. These new blisters just popped up within the past couple hours--they weren't there when I showered just 3 hours ago.