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Hi everyone, just wanted to share this with you all!

I was diagnosed with genital HSV-1 at the beginning of Oct. Yes it was devastating at first, but since then I have more or less come to terms with it.

I have also been seeing a guy for about a month. up until this weekend, we hadn't slept together. He didn't mind just cuddling and making out and didn't ask why we we're going to the bone zone yet. Finally, I knew I had to tell him and when I did he didn't care at all. He's younger than me, but it blows my mind how mature he is when it comes to this. We talked about it and he asked if I had ever considered using female condoms.

I hadn't considered it, the thought never even crossed my mind. He told me his doctor suggested it when he was dealing with an HPV infection. The female condom covers a lot more surface area than a male condom (basically covers most of the labia etc) and therefore offers more protection.

Long story short: I went to a women's sex shop and bought myself a bunch of them (they're expensive, but I think you can get them at sexual health clinics for free etc). We have had sex twice using female condoms and while they are a little floppy and silly looking, they don't take away any more sensation than male condoms. They take some getting used to when you're putting them in, but all in all I think it's totally worth the trouble/price. Once it's in and the sex has begun, you don't even notice them at all.

Hope this helps!

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Thanks for sharing. I have never heard of such a thing. I am most impressed with your guy and his openness to you after telling him. Gives me hope.

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o not think i would ever use a female condom.........:))we should try to live our sex life as normal as possible!

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    • LWestCoast
    • BPKU
      Ok. That's true. I would def. use protection but i was just thinking I should say something. I haven't made an decisions yet so nothing has happened. And also thanks for your response.
    • Xmk224
      Im thinking alot of one night stands are usually ppl you dont know. So i assume alot of ppl take the risk and have protected sex or even unprotected sex knowing they will never see thst person ever again. Especially if the transmission rate is low while using protection
    • BPKU
      I mean by that same logic anybody would be crazy to have sex with us ever  lol ppl we end up in relationships with are at risk the most aren't they? Since that would mean regular sex...  I'm asking to see if anybody has ACTUALLY disclosed to a one night stand because I've read on other sites that ppl have done it but most are blogs like the one here https://www.emilydepasse.com/eldsoul/2018/3/25/ask-emily-dating-with-herpes where basically the writer is responding to a question vs me actually having the ability to talk to the person who actually has the experience 
    • 2kroc
      http://www.eligiblemagazine.com/2013/03/14/lube-up-with-coconut-oil/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10813049 https://www.drgonzalezmd.com/avoid-secondary-herpes-infections-with-coconut-oil/   Coconut Oil has been shown to contain alot of antiviral properties. Herpes simply cannot survive in it, however I'm curious at how effective it is at preventing herpes transmission during sex, and if it'd make you near invincible. Herpes during sex is transmitted through skin to skin friction which coconut oil significant reduces.  Also if the virus were to leave the carrier's body it would get caught up in the layer of oil and killed. But how fast? Also, The lube drys out as you rub against each other, so you'd have to keep re-applying every so often.   Depending on the intensity of the sex, the coconut oil will get thoroughly rubbed into the persons skin layers, which'd mean the virus undoubtedly be on the persons skin and flesh. But, Theoretically, The virus should be dead/inactive due to being surrounded by the anti viral coconut oil, so it wouldn't even be able to crawl into their body to infect.   We need to get a bunch of lab mice or monkey, Infect 2 with herpes (Control and Test groups) , cover the test group in coconut oil, and let them have sex. If the test group shows less herpes transmission rates than that means that Coconut oil decreases STD TRANSMISSION!   Why hasn't this been done yet? Even if it didn't reduce transmission by 100%, 50% would lower std rates significantly.

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