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bhopeful

Hi, I was hoping for some support and advice. Its been very hard last few weeks! :sad: So good yet so bad!!

I recently had an encounter with someone I have admired for a while, we had "the talk" before anything happened. She is a Pharmacist, and I let my guard down and didn't use protection. Anyway, after few days later I broke out with sort of a red rash on my penis. Tiny red raised bumps. I immediately called her and she insisted she does not have herpes. She said she was sore afterward though.

I went to the doctor a couple days later, he said it looked like herpes. He prescribed 3 grams of Valacyclovir a day for a month. I got the swap test, and asked for a blood test but he said it wasn't necessary. I was also tested for syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia.

The swab test came back negative so he told me to take 2 grams of Valacyclovir up until 10 days which I did. He said it's possible it could have been positive if I came in sooner but his office was closed. It never did have sores though really, just several tiny, raised red bumps that felt sore. To me it looked like herpes, but duringthe outbreak I didn't have any of the other symptoms at all.

My last day of the meds I visited her again. I performed oral sex on her. Now a week later I have a few sores inside my lower lip that I never had before. I looked at it closely and it is sort of the same thing, a few tiny raised bumps. A couple of them bled a little last night because of tooth brushing.

Anyway, my question is what should I do next? See another doctor? Get a blood test? If so what one? I have read so much about this and test results seem so muddy. I'm pretty confused and scared like everyone else just dealing with this. I should mention I am an anxiety sufferer and a little of a hypochondriac too.

Thanks for listening and for your support. Happy Holidays.

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Hi, I was hoping for some support and advice. Its been very hard last few weeks! :sad: So good yet so bad!!

I recently had an encounter with someone I have admired for a while, we had "the talk" before anything happened. She is a Pharmacist, and I let my guard down and didn't use protection. Anyway, after few days later I broke out with sort of a red rash on my penis. Tiny red raised bumps. I immediately called her and she insisted she does not have herpes. She said she was sore afterward though.

I went to the doctor a couple days later, he said it looked like herpes. He prescribed 3 grams of Valacyclovir a day for a month. I got the swap test, and asked for a blood test but he said it wasn't necessary. I was also tested for syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia.

The swab test came back negative so he told me to take 2 grams of Valacyclovir up until 10 days which I did. He said it's possible it could have been positive if I came in sooner but his office was closed. It never did have sores though really, just several tiny, raised red bumps that felt sore. To me it looked like herpes, but duringthe outbreak I didn't have any of the other symptoms at all.

My last day of the meds I visited her again. I performed oral sex on her. Now a week later I have a few sores inside my lower lip that I never had before. I looked at it closely and it is sort of the same thing, a few tiny raised bumps. A couple of them bled a little last night because of tooth brushing.

Anyway, my question is what should I do next? See another doctor? Get a blood test? If so what one? I have read so much about this and test results seem so muddy. I'm pretty confused and scared like everyone else just dealing with this. I should mention I am an anxiety sufferer and a little of a hypochondriac too.

Thanks for listening and for your support. Happy Holidays.

For a start -- I would ask her to be tested - especially if you are going to continue to be intimate with her.--that might/might not possibly answer some of your questions.

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sebastian123

definitely ask her to get a blood test. this will prove what she has, either herpes 1 or 2. i think if i was you, i'd get one too....good luck.

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RealisticGal

I agree about both of you getting a type specific IgG-based HSV antibody (blood) test, but I would also suggest being tested for other conditions, including (but not limited to) a yeast infection.

If that doctor is going to fight you on the "necessity" of a blood test, I would definitely find a different doc or clinic.

Kudos to you for realizing a single negative test is not conclusive evidence to rule out HSV.

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