Just diagnosed, have questions...

[coping2]

Hello, I recently found several red spots on my inner thigh, they looked like razor burn but did not itch or burn or have feeling. I kept checking them and they were not going away like razor burn should, one or two looked slightly blistery, I knew I needed to see the dr. the swab came back negative, but the blood test came back positive for types 1 and 2. I figured I have had type 1 since childhood, had a pretty nasty fever blister when I was about 10 years old that left a scar. After the recent blood test, the dr. put me on Famvir, 500 mg. 3 X day during this outbreak, it went away fairly quickly, never scabbed, never caused any pain. The main symptom other than the bumps was a feeling of extreme fatigue right before the bumps appeared and while I had them. While on the Famvir I got a bad cold sore in my nose (which I thought was odd, since that is supposed to suppress the virus, not bring it out).

The man I was seeing swears he doesn't have it, and I saw no signs on him at all, my ex-husband did cheat on me, so I suppose it is possible that he gave it to me and I did not know it. However I know my body very well and really don't think that is the case. From reading some of the posts, it seems possible for this man to have had it and not had symptoms and not known he had it. I told him he should get tested, however he is a high-powered attorney in this area and I think he is afraid to do that. Afraid someone would find out. Not sure what to think, I guess there is no way for me to know where it came from and who gave it to me.

There is a man I have been seeing off and on for over a year and am now back with him, since finding this out though, he is dealing with what to do. I feel like I cannot be with him again, I can't see putting him in the position of possibly passing it on to him. I know he is torn because he wants to continue seeing me, but of course doesn't want to get this awful thing.

Since the diagnosis and the bumps going away, I had one bump show up on my thigh (its been about 3 weeks since the other bumps disappeared) I am unsure if this is a herpes lesion or just a bump! I shave alot and sometimes get razor burn, etc..

How can you tell the difference? I feel constantly paranoid every time I see a red spot and I don't know how to tell the difference.

I don't know how to continue having a sex life when I am constantly afraid that I am in an outbreak.

Most information I have read say that wherever your initial outbreak is, most likely that is where they will continue to be, has that been most peoples experiences?

They also say that the initial outbreak is the worst, since mine was very minor, does that mean I most likely will not have the blisters and pain?

Just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience as myself. This has been a very emotional thing to deal with, I am having a hard time dealing with the stigma of this virus. I do feel dirty, I do feel that men will look at me as if I am tainted. And when do you tell them, do you wait until you are going to become intimate or sooner than that? I have yet to date anyone since finding this out (other than the man I may or may not be seeing much longer). I'm sorry to write so much, but this is the first forum I came across and it feels pretty good to have someone to talk to. The world I live in is not one that understands this type of thing very easily. Thank you for taking the time to read this and responding.

Coping2...

[hopeful1234]

Coping2,

First of all, you are not alone. I was recently diagnosed. I can't help you much with the whole dating thing or telling someone new as I have not been put in that situation yet. Just found out that the guy that gave it to me was married with kids...not really interested in dating now. But I know will one day and I am just as nervous as you. First of all, stress can trigger a ob so you have to try to relax. There are websites for dating people that already have h so that might make dating easier for you when you are ready. Secondly...if you have lab results, your doctor should be able to interpret the data and tell you based on your numbers if you were recently infected or not. Call the doctor back and ask. If he/she can't help you, do a search on this site and compare your numbers to the other numbers of other people. Or posted them people will respond to help figure it out. Have your doctor mail the results to you or read them to you by phone. I hope this information has helped you and just know that there are people out here who care. Everyone was so helpful when I found out & ever since then, I've checked in regularly to see if other people need help. Good luck! And you are not dirty...not at all!

Hopeful1234