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Sorry if this is long but well, here goes. I recently was diagnosed with Herpes in August after having an excruciatingly painful set of symptoms which I had only once before about a month before, however this time it hurt to walk, sit down, pee, have sex.

My symptoms were, a sharp stabbing pain in my genital area, spots, discharge, swollen glands in my groin area and more so in the morning I couldn't hold my wee, it just came out and I couldn't control it.

Since about May I have been having all kinds of symptoms that are not traditionally connected to herpes but from what I see on this forum, some of you agree on symptoms which are not traditionally listed as herpes symptoms.

Since I was diagnosed I am finding I have had various symptoms on and off that come and go.

I am feeling low emotionally about it and at the moment I am on my 2nd proper outbreak in which I have soreness, some spots, some discharge, aches and pains in my womb, ovary area, swollen groin glands and I can't control my weeing.

These symptoms are incredibly worrying to me and I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced a feeling of depression and over emotional about having and suffering with Herpes?

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I know your physical and emotionally all too well. Ive had over 20 outbreaks and the pain/itchiness never goes away. So I never know when an outbreak will a occur. I feel the same physically even when outbreaks are not happening. Every minute of my life I think about how this virus ruined my love life. Having children will never happen becausr I cant have sex with all this soreness. The thought of infecting someone else makes me wanna crawl in a dark hole and rot away. I no longer feel sexy or secure about myself. Depression has made me lose 30lbs and im extremely skinny. Doesnt look good at all. Its been two years since diagnosis and I still cant come to peace with having genital herpes. I never slept around used condoms with my sex partners and stopped using protection with three of them a few months later because they were becoming long term relationships. Im lost and feel so alone although im engaged. I was with my fiance when I found out. Ugh, I could just dig my own grave somedays. This virus literally destroys peoples lives.

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Sorry to hear that. I have had soreness during sex a few years ago when with another partner, I met my now partner in February and I would say the symptoms I now recognise as herpes I have had since about May, June. A stabbing soreness in the same place on my genitals. I put it down to, without being rude, over excitable sex but when I had it again, accompanied by the symptoms I listed, the nurse mentioned Herpes and after a test was done, I was diagnosed. I had also started to get headaches-more dull aches in my head, more regular migraines than I've ever had and i wondered if that could be down to the Herpes as well. It is horrendous, I have a newish job which brings stress with it, my family life, just my whole life feels so much more stress filled because of it.

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    • viralfrog
      Having HSV-2 has not bothered me at all for casual sex. I'm just avoiding sex during outbreaks, on suppressive therapy and using condoms every time with casual partners. Since my outbreaks appear on top of my penis, even during an outbreak the risk is minimal if I put a condom on as soon as I take my underwear off.  I guess it might be a slightly different case for a girl as if you have external lesions around your groin you could still infect someone even using a condom. And of course, condoms can break, which has happened to me over 10 times and caused myself to get infected in the first place.  I see it as a much more difficult now having a serious relationship, because I can't feel much with a condom on and really want stop using them. However, I don't want to put my new girlfriend to any risk - I would feel terrible if I infected her. 
    • viralfrog
      Does anyone have experience about people's reactions to Herpes in Asia? Personally I live in Thailand where I also caught the virus as a condom broke 4 years ago.  Unfortunately I infected my ex-girlfriend with HSV-2. This was just after I had caught the virus myself and we had sex before I noticed and realised what it was. In the beginning, a local doctor told me I have just hurt my foreskin with my jeans' zipper and the tests came as negative. After getting tested later it came as positive.  Anyways, my ex-gf (well educated, professional, 26 years old then) she had no idea what Herpes was in the first place. She didn't really care too much about it and didn't bother to get tested. During our 3 year relationship we kept having unprotected sex as usual and she never had any issues until at the end one day. She had a very minor outbreak once and nothing after that (lucky her, no like myself who gets terrible symptoms non-stop). I know she has a strong immune system, because she was never sick despite myself having bad colds quite often. In any case, she could not care less about this virus and didn't mind at all.

      I've seen a lot of hysteria surrounding Herpes in Europe and the US. What has been your experience in South-East Asian countries like Thailand? Do people perceive HSV-2 as a worrying disease? 
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      The full article is behind a paywall but you could write the the authors and request a copy.
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      Wow interesting !! But how did they provide it to him !! I mean he is 27 years old !!

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