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Sorry if this is long but well, here goes. I recently was diagnosed with Herpes in August after having an excruciatingly painful set of symptoms which I had only once before about a month before, however this time it hurt to walk, sit down, pee, have sex.

My symptoms were, a sharp stabbing pain in my genital area, spots, discharge, swollen glands in my groin area and more so in the morning I couldn't hold my wee, it just came out and I couldn't control it.

Since about May I have been having all kinds of symptoms that are not traditionally connected to herpes but from what I see on this forum, some of you agree on symptoms which are not traditionally listed as herpes symptoms.

Since I was diagnosed I am finding I have had various symptoms on and off that come and go.

I am feeling low emotionally about it and at the moment I am on my 2nd proper outbreak in which I have soreness, some spots, some discharge, aches and pains in my womb, ovary area, swollen groin glands and I can't control my weeing.

These symptoms are incredibly worrying to me and I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced a feeling of depression and over emotional about having and suffering with Herpes?

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I know your physical and emotionally all too well. Ive had over 20 outbreaks and the pain/itchiness never goes away. So I never know when an outbreak will a occur. I feel the same physically even when outbreaks are not happening. Every minute of my life I think about how this virus ruined my love life. Having children will never happen becausr I cant have sex with all this soreness. The thought of infecting someone else makes me wanna crawl in a dark hole and rot away. I no longer feel sexy or secure about myself. Depression has made me lose 30lbs and im extremely skinny. Doesnt look good at all. Its been two years since diagnosis and I still cant come to peace with having genital herpes. I never slept around used condoms with my sex partners and stopped using protection with three of them a few months later because they were becoming long term relationships. Im lost and feel so alone although im engaged. I was with my fiance when I found out. Ugh, I could just dig my own grave somedays. This virus literally destroys peoples lives.

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Sorry to hear that. I have had soreness during sex a few years ago when with another partner, I met my now partner in February and I would say the symptoms I now recognise as herpes I have had since about May, June. A stabbing soreness in the same place on my genitals. I put it down to, without being rude, over excitable sex but when I had it again, accompanied by the symptoms I listed, the nurse mentioned Herpes and after a test was done, I was diagnosed. I had also started to get headaches-more dull aches in my head, more regular migraines than I've ever had and i wondered if that could be down to the Herpes as well. It is horrendous, I have a newish job which brings stress with it, my family life, just my whole life feels so much more stress filled because of it.

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